Friday Afternoons

As I sit here at my desk on a Friday afternoon, winding down to my reggae/caribbean, I thought how relaxed I feel today. I woke up at 4:30a a little anxious to come to work this morning because I knew I would be in the office by myself (for the first time) until about 9a. In order to get in work mode, I prayed. Yes, prayer works! I came in to work with a different attitude. Instead of coming in already defeated, I came in confident with a smile. I figured if I didn't know something or how to do something I had to improvise. What's wrong with a little spice in your life, right?

I'm at the end of my work day and am ready to start life (well, my weekend at least)! I finally get a moment to breathe and I realized just how soothing the sounds of Raheem DeVaughn, mixed with a little reggae, and the right attitude make for a pretty funky afternoon. Now it's your turn...what gets you through a Friday workday? What keeps you relaxed until 5p hits? Do Tell!

Check Me On Your Video Phone

I know a lot of people are probably Beyonce-d out but you have to admit this video she is giving the business and adding GaGa to it too?

I love it!

Vintage Fab

If you guys are familiar with The Fashion Bomb better start getting aquainted..trust it will change your fashion game for life!

Anyways they have a new post called Vintage Fab, asking readers to send in vintage pics of their family working out the fashions of the past and your own Kabuki Queen's family was featured! Check it out!

I'm Still A Rockstar...

So as I was making the changes to the blog Pink's "So What" came up on my playlist. It's a fun song to rock out to but I actually started listening to it and realized it applied to me more than I thought.

Oh trust I'm not trying to start trouble or have me or my ex start a fight. But Pink is basically saying, "Look so what if you're gone, so what if you're lame...I'm still fabulous and even more fabulous since you've been gone."

Story of my life.

Since I left you last it seemed like every male relationship I once had or currently have just burst into flames. I had got so down and out about myself that it was showing in everything. Ladies, I know there always is always a small portion of us that wants to be validated at some point, especially by a guy (if you don't agree it's cool, but hey when it comes to me that's what it is). And when it seems like no one appreciates you, it just sucks!

But hold up!

I had to look at myself and literally say "I am worth it, and if he can't see it then there is obviously something wrong with him" and pretty much any other guy that can't see that. So...

So what, I don't need you

So what, I'm better without you anyway

So what, I still look TOO damn good

So what, it's you're loss player

So what, I'm alright and just fine

And so what, I'm still the sh*t b*tch!! *snaps in a circle 3 times*

Don't mean to be hostile, just had to make the point :). But here's a few videos just to make you feel good and know that if your in a similar situation, you're better without him. And fellas if you're feeling the same way, you're better without her!

Enjoy!

Guess Who?

I hope you all didn’t forget about me!

First off I want to thank everyone who was supportive as I took a hiatus and especially thanks to Ms. Nels holding KabQueen down while I’ve been gone. Can’t believe I’ve been gone over two months!

There’s so much to discuss I know I won’t be able to put it in this one post but I just wanted to let you all know this for right now:

I’m baaaaaaaacccckkkkk!

:)

Just Live Your Life

In talking to my parentals this past Friday I realized that my life has succumbed to going out on the weekend (even if I didn't want to) just to say I did something exciting in my life. I expressed my concern to them that I didn't want to work and go to school all week just to sit in the house on the weekend resting, though, very tempting. Contrary to my feelings of "homebody-ness" I went out last night and all day today, which proved to be a good time. Let me take this opportunity to say that you should really start experiencing life in a different way everyday. Do something you've never done before, research places you always drive past but never go to, or out with people that you don't tend to go out with, just to keep things spicy and fresh. Note: this can be done at any age. Warning: this will make you feel forever young and often rejuvenated/refreshed.

Let me take this time to shed a little light on my current experience: I went to a club (all white, except for my friend and I) for one of my classmates bday party. When I got there, she wasn't there and we were the target black people for at least an hour...muy uncomfortable, so ready to leave but I had just paid 16 for parking, NOT EVEN! Despite my discomfort, we stuck it out and ended up making new party buddies, hooking up with my friend who was so happy to see me again, and we did it all...wait for it...SOBER, can you believe it! Talk about doing different stuff. You don't have to switch up everything, just do something you always do with a little twist. Point 2: today I went apple picking, drank cider (which I hated before today) and ate apple cinnamon donuts, and went to a petting zoo all while the weather switched from rainy/cloudy to sunny/rainy and back again. SIDEBAR: now ladies, how about you allow your hair to get wet once in your lifetime...it won't kill you, trust me and it is so liberating! And we're back: ended the night at my cousin's house watching an old 90s movie that I hadn't seen and am too embarrassed to even mention the name.

Not saying you have to do anything I've done on my list of random things, but find something out of the ordinary and JUST DO IT...one thing I absolutely agree with Nike on! Live life, no regrets!

ZEBRA season!

Hi All,

I'm looking for a little black (or white) dress to wear to my first black and white ball! I'm extremely excited, but I have no idea where to look. I guess I don't fit the 'every girl' mold because the fashion literature definitely says I should not only have one LBD, but two. I'm way behind the curve! Right now, I'm looking online, but I would love to know some actual stores I can stop in. Please help a sister out! And men, I would love your input on what kind of dress you like to see women in...this is a group project, thx!
Sincerely,

Nel

CR

I hate getting on here after years of being away, however, I only write when I'm extra excited or confused about something and need the opinion of fellow, fabulous peers!

Now, to the real reason why I'm writing this fine day (I'll be short and sweet): I have to admit that I have fallen prey to the Charlotte Russe monster! The clothes, um...not really my thing, but I goes nowhere else for my accessories, bomb diggity (how was that for hood?)!

I was in the store a few weeks ago to buy another pair of the fabulous earrings I already own, but this time for my little sister who recently turned 8, and is just as grown as me I might add. Anyone that's already hip to the CR bomb, you should already know that you can always come out of there with two pieces of jewelry for 8 bucks. I scooped up the old earrings for lil sis and grabbed a new, fun pair for my weekend dinner party. Got to the register, happy to have found what I was looking for and decided to give the ring basket on the front counter a quick look-through.

Wasn't I happy I did because it was then I spotted a small sign behind the registers stating a 10% discount to all students and military personnel. I asked the cashier what I had to do to receive the discount, and she told me just show my school idea. ALL STUDENTS receive 10% off, EVERY PURCHASE! Now, I know 10% is just tax, at least in Chicago, but during this recession that the rest of the world is going through (seeing as I'm not participating), I thought this would be most helpful to any and everyone looking for a break...Stop on by and be on the lookout for anymore of these "small signs"! Happy shopping ;)

Mental Break

As you can see there's definitely been a lack of updates, usually it'll be cause I'm busy etc. but I've just been frozen...it might be a bad case of writers block. I feel like I've just lost my motivation...with getting ready to move, applying for grad school, and life in general has got my mind in a totally different place. I'm definitely not depressed just...blah. Ever had one of those moments?

So I'll call this hiatus a mental break. I promise I won't leave you guys hanging for too long but please bear with me as I'm going through this awkward transitioning phase. I still appreciate everyone's support and please continue to support and once I get over this I'll continue to bring you posts. :)

KabQueen On The Move...Literally.

So I've actually known about this but I may as well make it known. I'm originally from a suburb outside of Los Angeles, California and after much thinking, praying etc. I've decided to move back to California.

St. Louis has been good to me but I know its been time for me to move on especially for my career path. I'm pretty sad that I am leaving, I've made my closest friends here, I've basically made my life here and to switch it up is going to be kinda weird. But I'll be living with Mom and Dad (we'll see how that goes) and it'll be nice to be closer to them and my brother.

And you can't hate on the weather!

So I just wanted to keep ya'll updated and better believe I WILL be blogging about this new experience!

Jeans please!

hi all,

i've been gone for ages, but like ej, i have been also traveling the globe (to her hometown of fabulous LA). i know most blogs offer information, but today i'm looking for some jean knowledge. i need jeans! i would love to be able to order them online, but i'm an in-between size type of girl so i have to try everything on. does anyone order jeans online and they're true to size? i just bought a pair of lees from marshalls that fit really well, but i want some skinnys for cheap...any suggestions?
thanks in advance,

nel

For The Boys Who Rocked My World

Today I was reminiscing on the crushes I used to have when I was younger. Literally these boys used to make me swoon!

First Brandon Adams.








You know him from the TV movie "Polly" with Keisha Knight Pulliam, The People Under The Stairs, The Sandlot, The Mighty Ducks and a few episodes of Fresh Prince, but he stole my heart as little Michael in Moonwalker.


I recently found him on Twitter and tweeted that I had such a crush on him back in the day and he even tweeted me back saying thanks! Man I was smiling ALL day!

Does he still make me swoon...eh not so much but he'll always be boo from back in the day.



Lastly Jason Weaver.





We all know him from Smart Guy, ATL and many other things but he stole my heart as little Michael in The Jacksons' American Dream.



I couldn't deny a face like that.

Would I holler now? Nah, not so much. But he is talented so hopefully we'll see him in more and possibly less bootleg movies :cough: Love For Sale :cough:






Funny how they both played little Michael Jackson and I both loved them. Ah, memories.

Old Habits Die Hard...I Guess

This comment was so outlandish I had to vent about it.

Today my roomies and I were discussing the stigma of darker skin women having shorter hair. Its sad to see that some men and even some women overlook true beauty because it's not packaged in the standard of "American Beauty". What makes it even more sad is to see African American men publicly downgrade dark skin women who wear their hair natural. My roomie told us a well know man-whore/jerk around St. Louis made a comment about her natural hair on Facebook.

Let's view Exhibit A:

"that is disgusting...how do you coloreds maintain such nappiness!! im so happy to be a (he put his last name here)!! need a comb?"


*The guy who said this has light skin and very curly hair*

I couldn't even find the words to say after we saw this. Its a shame to see how American standards of beauty have plagued the black community. Are we suddenly now not considered beautiful because the texture of our hair? I got so mad to see another black man not only refer to another black woman as a "colored" but blatantly disrespect the style she chooses to wear her hair. As my roommates discussed this, it all brought memories of girls in elementary school that would be "grossed out" at texture of our hair and the oil we had in it and that we weren't "normal" because we didn't wash our hair everyday. And for another man to say pretty much the same thing, at that a black man?? I ask myself, how was this boy raised? Was he taught that the finer the hair the better? This type of view is embedded in him and it probably won't change.

This made me realize is that the racism within our own community still lives and still continues to tear us apart. The light vs. dark complex is apparent throughout the media. Black women in hair commercials always having sleek, straight hair, makeup ads targeted towards lighter-skin women. When black men are discussing the beauty of women the comment "she's cute for a dark skin girl" always, always, always comes up. It's been said to my face, and I think 'is that supposed to make me feel better about myself?' Why do we feed into this obscure opinion? Why are celebrities like Lil' Kim, harm their bodies to make themselves look lighter with more European features. Why don't black men embrace true beauty with whatever shade or hair texture?

:Sigh:


There's so much more I want to say but I could continue to talk about this for weeks. So ladies and gents, how do you feel about this comparison of light vs. dark, natural vs. straight? Will this issue continue or are we seeing changes within media of what black beauty is?

Let Me Count The Ways

So I had my iPod shuffle on while riding in the car and this song came on. It's a throwback but I love it and love vintage Shemar Moore even mooorree!

Where Brooklyn At??

Just as I promised here are a few pics from my New York trip....enjoy!





Me infront of the Apollo and me at the All White Party which was SO much fun!



I forgot what this park was called but it was by NYU and just beautiful and this is us on the big ferris wheel @ Coney Island


Me visiting the CNN studios (that's where Anderson Cooper sits...yum!) and me and my friend Ashley that came down to visit.





Us at Cain (I think that's what it was called) with some rando and me and my roomie on the swings in Central Park


Me before our first night out...that dressed had a few malfunctions :/

If This Was My Trainer...I'd Be With Him Too!

So remember Ms. Kimberly Locke from American Idol and later Celebrity Fit Club...well did you know she's hooked up with Mr. Harvey from Fit Club?? I had no idea! But shoot...I would do it too!

Get it girl! Cute couple!

Photo Courtesy of Concrete Loop

Finally Back!

I feel like I've been gone forever!

But I had a wonderful time in New York! It definitely made me realize that that is the city I need to be in. Mission move to New York City is ON! Special thanks to the ladies of Almost Famous for giving us great suggestions on where to go...next time we're hanging out ladies!

New York makes you wanna step up your fab game too, just so much individuality for great inspiration to add to your own personal style. And can we talk about the men!

Beautiful! Fresh lining's everywhere...gotta love it. I'll definitely be sure to update with pics once I download to the comp. But that's all I got for now folks...hope everyone is doing well. I'm brewing some new posts as I type so more to come!

100th Post For Each Of You

Okay so the reason we didn't post all week was because we were trying to figure out something special for our 100th post. What did we come up with?



Thank you.

PastryJunkie

AGILES

Necole

Sherry

RoSi

Breakfast at Hillary’s

Ms. Danyelle

m-online08

TuLuAt

God Among Us!

Ms. Minnie

Reese

Kelly, Nina & Kiyyah

Little Miss Knobody

Down Low

Cecelia

Cerebrally_Orgasmic

A.r.v.y.

Retromusik

Jillian

Yayemarie

Miss Wilson

TRU IDENTITY

NaturallyYanTan

Miss.Fortune

Nikki.Kisses

K. Michel

S Jones

Melanie

Ja$mine Ra;chelle

Robert

(vixenchick)

Gregory Jones (miss you boo!)

K*Mack

Carmel Mimi

Cc.Denise

Lil’Diddy

Sunshyne

Juicy Carter

1824

Without you, we wouldn't of made it to 100 posts. We know it may not seem like a big deal for 100 posts, but to me us it's the world. We said we would do something (blogging) and we're doing it and we're thankful that each of you respond with such postivity that keeps this going.

Thanks again and promise more posts tonight!

Throwback Classic

My best friend and I used to sing this song...I'd wanna be Monica but got stuck with being Brandy. Oh well, love them both.

Enjoy!

Help!

Help!

I'm taking a trip to New York City the first week of August with my roomies and I have no idea what to do! Clubs, restaurants, bars, museums? Help a queen out!

So if you guys know any good places to go to or have some websites I should visit to get info, PLEASE let me know!

muchas gracias!

You Can Have Me and My Blood!

It's been a minute since I've done a Man of the Moment, so this week I bring....

Mehcad Brooks!


You may know him from his short role on Desperate Housewives.




And you can't forget him as Jerome on The Game


Now, you can catch him on True Blood. And ladies did you see that last episode where he was giving that girl the business?? Oh.Em.Gee. It just got wayy too hot in here.


If you wanna check out his feature films he also was in Glory Road.


With abs like that..who wouldn't love him?






Can't get enough? Stalk him on Twitter....http://twitter.com/Mehcadbrooks

Do You Boo

I must say I was surprised to see Solange go for the big chop, maybe with a little lining and brush it won't be so bad. But it made me think. She could give two bricks about what everyone else thinks...she's doing her. Can you blame her for it?

Which brings me to my next point. In a world with trendsetting divas, fashion icons and fads I feel that we can get lost. Fashion and society say no to wearing this but yes to wearing that. I feel that style does make a statement as to who you are. You like wearing sweats most of the time? Then you're a laid back kinda gal. Heels just to go to the store? You like to keep it fierce. And there is truly nothing wrong with it. Ladies we can't loose who we are just because "they" say it's not hot. We can keep up with trends and make it our label.

Now don't get me wrong there are some fashion tragedies, you know you can tell when someone didn't look in the mirror before they left the house. And sometimes personal style needs a little tweaking (i.e. What Not To Wear...love that show!).But even when you see that girl rocking plaid tights in the dead heat of summer, if she's walking with her head held high, rocking it like it was on the front page of Italian Vogue, well then I give her my props. She's comfortable in her own skin and that's what truly matters.

So my tip for the day....do you boo. Don't pay attention to what he or she says. Confidence surpasses Chanel....feel me?

Au Natural Part 2

I feel like I've been gone so long!

Ah, well I still don't have a job BUT it's okay...I'm still looking up and know that something will come up soon. In the meantime I've been on my workout game which I'm very proud of...it's such a stress reliever too!

And in the process I changed my hair...again! This time no weave :gasps: I know, I know.


I just decided to work with my own. The rod set is working for the moment..gives me the curly fro effect plus I don't have to comb it, just pick it out. And it definitely works because I'm half natural half relaxed, so it's not too noticable. So I definitely was happy Ms. Nels did a post on being natural and big thanks to those who gave tips! I will be checking out those products ASAP.

So just wanted to give an update...more posts coming tonight..yay!

Oh and 40 followers now! Ya'll really love us! And we love ya'll back...so welcome new followers...keep giving feedback!

au natural

i've been natural for two years now and though i spend hours straightening my hair per week, i can't help but wanting to stay relaxer-less. i'm rocking the curly fro right now, but i really wish it wasn't so dry. does anyone have any good experiences with products on the market for natural hair? sometimes a sister (yes, sister not sistah) wants to rock out without having to deal with is my wrap total frizz yet! help!!!

I Always Feel Like Somebody's Watchin' Me....

Of course with my lack of updates I know I'm slacking at reading everyone's blogs and I'm gonna be getting back on it. I'm telling you this is the first time I've been on a computer all day and it's about to be 12 midnight.

So soon enough I'll be back to reading and posting comments on everyone's blogs...I miss reading them everyday!

Sweet dreams everyone!

My Love Is Deeper, Tighter, Sweeter, Higher, Flyer...Didn't You Notice? Apprently Not.

I had to quote my girl Jill Scott in the title, "My Love" is not only a great song but a song that I seem to share something in common with after this past Saturday.

I broke up with my ex a month ago. Needless to say I was happy. I no longer had to deal with the pains of a long distance relationship and got to enjoy the freedom of being single. I also came to a realization that I truly was not IN love with my boyfriend but I had love for him. He and I just saw things differently and the "honeymoon" phase couldn't last forever, there was too much difficulty for such a long distance.

You never want to hear about your ex finding a new love so soon after you. In the back of your mind you want to be the girl that he's tripping over, the girl he can't get over, the girl that no other girl will compare to. It boosts your ego, you know? Which is why I possibly have a problem with the following situation.

On Saturday my ex got married...yes the negro got married after a month of us being dunzo.

Wow, is all I could say.

Yes I didn't want to be with him but dang, really? We were together for 5 months...not long, but long enough to put in effort for 4 out of the 5 that the relationship was long distance relationship work...i.e. writing letters, going to their graduation ON your birthday (very hard pill to swallow). When I found out all I could say was congratulations. Of course I wasn't going to let him see the worst of me. Funny thing was he wasn't going to tell me, I forced it out of him after seeing his strange status on Facebook and prying him with questions about it until he admitted that he was indeed married.

But as I was talking to my friends and mom about the situation they helped me realize that yes my feelings are hurt but more of my pride is. I hate to be seen as a fool and in some ways I was because either two things could of happened. He was seeing her the whole time he was seeing me, or as soon as we were done he got with her. But married? I didn't see it coming.

I should have though. Because he expressed interest in marrying me, and me moving to where he's getting stationed (he's a Navy man) and starting a family. All of which I truly wasn't ready for.

After the initial stage of anger, I had to sit back and laugh. There seemed to be more to this man that I didn't know which was probably a blessing in disguise. But in it all, I know I deserve better and he was definitely not the best. I wish him all the best of luck and I hope he finds what he's looking for.

As for me, I'll just continue to be a better me. I won't wear my hurt on my face but I won't internalize it either. I'll deal with it now so that it won't become excess baggage. Situations and heartbreaks like these only help you become stronger. I can say that I've been through a lot but I won't become jaded, I'll become wiser.

I won't end this on my high horse BUT he'll never deny that my love was deeper, tighter, sweeter, higher, flyer...haha....ya'll get the point :)

Wow...just typing this has made me feel even better. Glad I could get personal with you KabQueens!

So What Had Happened Was...

Okay guys, I clearly know I've been MIA I guess it's time for some explaining.

When I do my updates 9 times out of 10 I'm at work...clearly I haven't been updating because I haven't been at work because I don't have a job.

Yes the recession has hit home. The company I work for had a 5-year contract with our city school district which was up this year, our contract didn't get renewed but we were welcome to apply for the new company that was coming in. I definitely applied, but didn't get it, and since almost two weeks now, I've been unemployed. It is kind of weird not to have that same routine but having time off has given me time to just....chill. Chill from absolutely everything. I've been wanting to update the blog but I just didn't have it in me...I guess I've been getting my life in general together. I'm also trying to make some big decisions...i.e. moving from St. Louis to...I don't even know yet.

So I just wanted to let you guys know what was up...and I will be updating more this week. It's a promise!

Let me paint a scenario for you...just imagine that you have found that perfect someone, the person that always came to mind when you thought about your ideal significant other. By some way or another you end up with this person and realize that they are everything you want them to be, everything you ever imagined. However, all your friends, relatives, mentors, etc. tell you that they are no good for you because of a minor technicality (e.g., age, race, etc.), but you choose to ignore them and just enjoy the moment. Sooner than later you find out that the person you're with is freakin amazing and you don't know why everyone was trippin on them until one day you wake up and you don't get a good morning text, no phone call for a week, going out is contingent on you suggesting it, and you stop seeing this person on a regular basis. Now, if both parties are concerned by the list above, then maybe something can be worked out...but if you're the only one that notices it? Hmm...so you keep telling yourself that it is worth it because this is your dream mate; you keep this thing going bc you want it to be better, you know it CAN be better...when is enough, ENOUGH?! When you confront them about it they have nothing to say bc they don't even know this is going on...it's all in your head (right?). As if! (I had to go CLUELESS for a minute, forgive me)

It's obvious that I'm speaking from experience. Needless to say, my dream for the ideal person has not changed, but there have been some major modifications. I had to let that go and am dealing with the mixed emotions of my decision as I write. Am I out here alone or has someone else been through this (or something equally bogus)?

Stars & Stripes

Happy Independence Day! Does your street look and sound like a war zone or is it just me?

I do find it odd that I had a moment to post during this eventful weekend but see it as I had two huge plates of food today...the itis called me and my friends to retreat to our couch before hitting the town tonight. I have had a blast this weekend so far...I keep forgetting my camera to take pics but I did get a shot from the party photog last night.



It was a nice party. The only thing missing...air conditioning! Stupid hot is all I can say.

Many apologies for the lack of updates...life has been on a bit of a roller coaster (which I'll fill you in later this week). But I will say I'm SO happy to have 37 followers now, WOW! Freakin' amazing dudes! Ya'll already know I'm grateful. So welcome new followers...I'll be sure to check out everyone's blog this week, promise!

So everyone be safe tonight, and don't let the illegal fireworks blow off your hand!

I Feel So Special!

The lovely Jasmine over at Haha-You nominated Kabuki Queen Interesting Blog Award!



It's our very first award so I thought I'd grace everyone with an acceptance speech:

First of I'd like to thank God...without Him this blog would be...nothing. To our loyal 33 followers...you all are the best I've ever had! Thanks for loving every random post, rant etc...I gotta get out what's going on in my brain somehow lol. Okay I'll get off the soapbox after this last one thing........I LOVE YOU MJ!


Okay I'm done.



Oh! And I'm also supposed to nominate another blog and I chose.......





Almost Famous...Ya'll always have great posts that keep me entertained.

Healthy Kisses...Nikki you always have health info we all need to know.

Naturally Yan Tan...Because I'm definitely finding your hair journey interesting as I'm transitioning also.



And don't forget the rules:

1. Accept the award, post it on your blog together with the name of the person who has granted the award and his/her blog link.

2. Pass the award to other blogs that you've newly discovered. Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.


Thanks again Jasmine!

I Just Can't...

I don't even know what to say other than that is man was awesome despite any of his personal battles. May God rest his soul and let his music continue to play forever and influence the lives of everyone he touched.

pass the courvoisier

hated the song, but would love to taste the drank one of these good days. i know the iphone has a drink menu application that lists all the drinks and how to make them. now, i'm not an alcoholic or anything, far from it...but i do like a good cocktail every now and again. any suggestions for the next time i'm in the mood to sip? pinkies up!

Rainy Dayz

"its just those rainy dayz, you spend a lifetime trying to wash away, until the sun comes out and shines again, smile at me, smile for me..."

where are my spring babies at?! i absolutely love the rain (when i haven't just gotten my $60 'do done, of course). to be able to nap in a house that is 84 degrees without discomfort deserves a def shout-out. the rain gave me a well-needed boost, even though the nap was only 15 minutes!

how about you? any afternoon nappers out there??

She's back!

i know i've been ghost, but thx so much for all of you supporting the efforts of my divalicious partner in the game...fab e! you all have truly been a blessing.

just to share a little of what's held my attention for the past eon: been seeing this new older guy that i've been crushing on. does anyone feel me when i say he was all types of wrong for me, but i pursued it anyway...leaving myself emotionally drained and psychologically stressed. i was dealing with some insecurities about being younger and less experienced, but as time will have it we are working through our issues and taking it one day at a time. i tried not to bash the whole male population on this post, which is why it took me so long to get on here (shout out to our male followers).

i'll leave you with a few words of wisdom, though: not all men are dogs; cherish the ones that treat you as the queen you are and leave the doggish-ness by the garage for trash day. love to all ;)

Sweet Jesus!

Oh em gee!

30 followers now??

I just had to post and say MUCHAS GRACIAS! I'm so like....ah! It's wonderful! And God is so good to have this blog really take off. Ya'll don't know this blog is my baby and it means so much to me and ya'll mean everything to me! I feel tears coming....

No I'm just playing but I'm so grateful so special thanks again to those who have been following and our new followers...welcome KabQ's!

Who Is.....?

Now the following post is totally no homo.

With that being said I freakin’ love Jill Scott.

I got a girl crush…so what, the chick is fierce!


Her music is just…bananas. So poetic, so emotional, so real.


So as I’m still contemplating my Man of the Moment for the week, I’ll leave you with my Kabuki Queen of the Moment, and my female boo!


And have you seen The No.1 Ladies Detective Agency on HBO?


If you haven’t your clearly sleeping.


Oh yes and I do want her hair….


If my soon-to-be natural can look that good…I’m good!

She’s just so refreshing. Loves it!

Surprise Surprise

So I logged onto Blogger this morning to see that we have 6 new followers! I'm geeked!

So hello, hey there, hi there to our 6 new followers, you are so appreciated. And a special special thanks to K. Michel Press who gave all of his followers a chance to put their blogs on blast so everyone can connect, make sure you check the post out and check out his blog K.Michel Press.

More posts coming through the day...

Some Like It Hot

....I on the other hand like the temperature to be moderate…give me 75-79 degrees. But since the first day of summer was yesterday I’ll have to find that moderate weather next Spring. Oh how I’ll miss you.

But I can’t hate too much on summer, summer gives me days full of sundresses, outside dining, warm late nights, and plethora men coming out the woodwork (well there aren’t too many choices in St. Louis but once in awhile there’s a few decent ones). It’s all fun in the sun.

And with the summer heat I ALWAYS need to cheap finds to keep me cool. Thanks where my friend Forever 21 comes in. Some people bad mouth Forever but I can’t…we’re in a recession and I still gotta look fierce…don’t hate!




Tiered Fiesta Dress$24.80





Nadina Sundress $19.80




H81 Bold Stripes Sundress $22.90




Lathika Chiffon Tube Dress $22.80




Dayana Print Dress w/ Belt $22.80