Thursday, December 18, 2008

I used to L-O-V-E him

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Lately I've been thinking about what my next steps in life will be. I always knew I wanted to be a doctor, maybe a counselor on the side, and fashion stylist for a little extra cake. But, as college draws to a close and these things become more real, I have come to the realization that I want more in life. The things I wanted are fine, but I want someone to share my experiences with. I'm tired of going through this long journey alone. I want a friend, beau, confidant, lover, boyfriend, hubby, companion. In battling this thought/feeling all of my goals have not been getting full attention: MAYDAY! I have resulted to guys that I know I have no future with, but are giving me the attention I want right now. Can I get a What What?! Um...don't follow this example it leads to emptiness and confusion.

Long story short, I started talking to one of my friends from way back (not a beau friend, and actual friend friend) and I knew he was not the one for me, but I didn't see any harm in just having him take me out (he is such the gentleman, why not?) One year later, I have feelings for him and I want him to be my man but he has priorities that precede me and so I always feel left out in the cold (not literally ladies, geez). I just want him to love me, right? Wrong! First off, if you know a man is not your husband from day one, stop trying to make him into your husband! Second, the areas that you two are not compatible in will never be compatible, so stop making big mountainous issues into molehills! And lastly, don't ever put a man before your dreams, whether he is someone you just have your eye on or he's your fiancee! You will so hate yourself for it later.

Luckily, I'm still pursuing my dreams and did not get too off track (thanks Lord). Instead of finding ways to communicate with him without actually calling his phone (I know yall know about this), how about redirecting that energy to something more useful like, I don't know, YOUR CAREER! God first, you second, man last = SUCCESS. Because lets face it, real men want what real women want: someone with a career, car, house, phone on, no kids, bills paid, and sexy-classy! Let's make sure that when a real man comes around he's not scared to fall in love bc he knows you're worth falling for. So, no longer will I be sidetracked by the spirit of "I used to love him", but I will tread ahead with the thought "I still love him, but I love me more!" (for my SATC fans, I believe Sam said this in the movie!)

The Things One Should Always Do...

I think i'm on a posting high...someone bring me down!! But here's some food for thought. Enjoy!

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Talk to God about what is going on in your life. Buy a lock if you have to.

3. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement,

My purpose is to __________ today. I am thankful for______________'

4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli , almonds & walnuts.

6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.


7. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.

Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.

9. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

11. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

12. You are not so important that you have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

13. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

14. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?' (And

17. Forgive everyone for everything.

18. What other people think of you is none of your business.

19. GOD heals everything - but you have to ask Him.

20. However good o r bad a situation is, it will change.

21. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch!

22. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

23. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements:

I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished _________.

24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

25. When you are feeling down, start listing your many blessings. you'll be smiling before you know it.



Any words of wisdom to share? Then please do! Be blessed :)

A Woman's Worth

Lately my friends and I have been discussing male/female relationships. How wack guys can be...how ho-ish girls can be and have even been reading posts about the topics from a facebook friend who writes some pretty insightful notes. So all these discussions led me to the thought of how do we truly value our self-worth?

This past Tuesday I was watching one of my addictions, "The Bad Girls Club". Two of the females were talking about being the best looking in their cities, how wherever they go they always attract men. I can't remember word for word what one of them said but she basically stated that she doesn't feel good unless a man tries to talk to her or compliments her.

Hold the pumps! Say what??

This girl only felt validation if she was the center of a man's attention. Have we come to this point as women? I sincerely hope not. I think it's safe to say all of us at one point have gone to the mall and picked out an outfit because you knew you wanted to catch someone’s eye. Whether you wanted to chi-chis to be out or for those pants to make your butt look a little bigger. We're all guilty of it but the point is not to get hung up on it. Compliments and attention are always nice and sure we always love to get them but do we really feed off that? Feed off you telling yourself you look "that freakin' good!" When people say confidence starts within its true.

Think about this...God created you. The same God who created the heavens and earth put his stamp on you. So why not love and cherish yourself? If our beauty was defined by men then shoot we'd all be ugly! Different men have different taste but does that need to matter to us. We know we got it going on and if the next guy doesn't see that than screw him! Not literally of course. God created you a little lower than his angels, therefore chica, you are worth so much more!

And if you start to feel a little down because that cutie didn't talk to you all night, remember this,

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.Psalm 139:13-15"

Have a kab day!

Monday, December 8, 2008

Step Away From The Vending Machine....

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Since Miss Janelle got the ball rolling on health I thought to add more info to improve your daily eating habits.....



So, you’re sitting at your desk at work or maybe trying to stay awake in a class lecture but it hits us all...hunger pains! And as Americans we want the fastest way to relieve that which is usually found through snacks especially from the variety of a vending machine or the fast-paced drive-thru.


But ladies, take a step back before you open that bag of Doritos, inhale the Snickers bar or dip that chicken nugget and read a few tips on eating healthier at work to not only for your nutrition but to be more productive in the classroom and at the job.


1.) Cook for more than one!
-If you are a cooker (unlike me) whip up a big meal Sunday night with your favorites like chicken breast, steamed veggies or pasta. Freeze a certain amount of portions to grab in the morning when you’re heading out for work.



2.) Breakfast IS a meal of champions.
-Even though you may not have much of an appetite in the morning, still eat! Your bigger meal should be consumed early so it can be burned off while you’re active at work or running in and out of class. For the late sleepers grab some nuts and dried fruit, yogurt and a piece of fruit to eat on the way.



3.) Food on deck.
-If you’re still rockin' a boho bag then you definitely have enough room to carry healthier snacks with you. Try an orange or tangerine and a granola bar to curve that sudden hunger.



4.) Less is more.
-Our eyes are always bigger than our stomachs, so don't be fooled by getting large portions. Try half a sandwich with soup or salad.


5.) Stay hydrated.
-Its always good to have water with you whether a bottled water or a reusable thermo you can fill up at the water cooler or water fountain



Choose wisely and enjoy!







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Friday, December 5, 2008

The Truth About Diabetes

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Well ladies, I have to get on your cases about something very important. Do you know your BMI (Body mass index)? If you don’t, you should. I know we don’t frequent the scales because we feel we just look too good to be concerned, but the truth of the matter is women with curves (yes, us) are more prone to obesity. Obesity is having a BMI of 30+. To calculate, I believe it’s your weight in kilograms divided by your height in inches. Follow closely because this might get a little intense: obesity causes 90% of all type 2 diabetes mellitus cases.

Diabetes is the rejection of insulin, which is necessary for transforming body cells into glucose (your energy source). 50% of Black and Hispanic women (yes, even you KabQueen) will develop type 2 diabetes mellitus in their lifetime. The scary part is it is affecting us a lot younger than in previous decades. There has been an extreme rise in obesity and diabetes cases in children and adolescents. And the scary truth is that though we are no longer children and some of us have not had the pleasure of having children at this time, children with diabetes grow up. If you’re not worried yet, let me not forget to mention that type 2 diabetes can be caught during any age of your life.

Though type 2 diabetes is both preventable and treatable (e.g., eating healthily and working out regularly), there is no cure. Look out for high blood pressure and cholesterol as signs of the disease. And if anyone in your family has diabetes, you should get checked because type 1 diabetes is hereditary. On a lighter note, let this serve as a wake up call to pay more attention to your health and body. Make your way over to a Weight Watchers meeting followed by a little WiiFit just to be on the safe side. And please get screened for the disease; better safe than sorry. (You can find further information at the American Diabetes Association)
laugh, LIVE, love,

JM