Kabuki│Queen

Spider Webs, Dust & Cobwebs Oh My!

2010-12-14T09:58:00.000-08:00

At least that's what I felt when I got on blogger.

I'm not going to lie....I've been having an affair with Tumblr.

It's SO easy, just to reblog everything and not use all the codes or what not. Readers if I lost you I understand and if you still read my posts I'm SO sorry. I can't guarantee that I'll be posting more but I won't neglect Kabuki Queen as much as I have.

But if you do Tumblr follow me and my random postings at emella.tumblr.com.

A Soulful Masterpiece

2010-07-28T23:08:00.001-07:00

"Diamonds in the Back"

You ever just look at a painting and said "Dang, I feel that"? No? Okay maybe just me. Well when you look at Dawn Okoro's work if you don't feel that...well now there's just something wrong with you.

I stumbled upon her work from a natural hair site praising her for featuring natural hair and afro beauties. And since then I've been hooked. Her artwork has graced my phone wallpaper and is currently my wallpaper on my computer...okay okay I know I may sound like a total groupie but the girl is fierce with these paintings!

Never have I seen art that I feel paints a picture of how I feel or who I am. As a newly natural hair beauty (yes I chopped it off...updates coming soon!) I look at her Crown and Glory pictures and just get inspired and love all the crown and glory that I have. Hey I could talk about her stuff for days but let the art speak for itself!

"Turned Away"

"Shine 1"

"Saturday's Best"

"Shine 2"

And once I get my place (soon Jesus! Please?) Dawn's art will definitely be adorning my walls.

And check out more of her work (and her new project called 'Selfsploitation'-think Rihanna, Cassie and naked pics) at: www.dawnokoro.com

Her blog at: www.dawnokoro.blogspot.com

Annnd follow her on Twitter: twitter.com/dawnokoro

Love All Over Me

2010-07-19T18:54:00.001-07:00

My, my, my...what else can I say about Shannon Brown. The end of the video did tick me off a bit, but I think it's obvious who she should choose. By the way, Monica=FABULOUS!

Grrr...

2010-07-06T20:21:00.000-07:00

While this process of transitioning to natural hasn't been as bad as I thought, there is only one thing that is really grinding my gears....

SINGLE STRAND KNOTS!

I HATE them! They are especially all in my kitchen area (since 3 of my twists came out in the back).

So I'm always messing with it, which in turn is causing breakage which of course is the opposite of what I want to happen back there. I'm moisture in the AM and PM and use Mega-Tek every other day to continue to help with the growth.

Do any of my natural hair Queens have any suggestions? If so PUH-LEEZE let a girl know!

Retail Therapy

2010-07-05T20:09:00.000-07:00

More like clean house therapy. Since I didn't have to work today I got up and decided to clean out my closet. Got rid of old things, found shirts that I could wear for work and even hung up my belts (this is big).

(Now to you this may not seem organized but to me...this is really really good for me).

And I couldn't have clean house therapy without some Target therapy...duh!

First I needed some new house shoes with a little pizazz...I think I scored. (Hello footsies!)

What I also really needed were shoes for work...cute FLAT shoes. And Xhilration and Mossimo never let me down.

I also adore Target's notebook selection. I'm definitely feeling their greenroom collection which uses recylced paper. (I feel like I'm doing my part to my planet)

A pen/pencil organizer from Real Simple.

And lastly a purple corkboard to but all my motivational quotes and bible verses. And I finally hung up my saying for life.

That's all for now Queens!

Back To The Regularly Scheduled Program

2010-07-04T16:59:00.000-07:00

First off I'm truly thankful that I went from no work to so much work that I can't even contain it. No literally I can't. I barely have time for anything, even eating dinner. Yes when I'm on the grind, I grind...hard. (That sounded slightly...gross lol).

Good thing is I've had so many posts in my head so I'm using this marvelous Independence Day weekend to get it all out and then some. So I hope you queens are have a fantabulous weekend, enjoy the fireworks tonight, oh and please be sure to follow me on Twitter. Yes, yes I'm back on there, Facebook particularly isn't my cup of tea anymore.

But nonetheless follow me HERE!.

(Singing Usher's "Follow Me"...come follow me come follow me now...right noooow)

Because You Told Your Boo To Come On Over

2010-06-08T22:47:00.000-07:00

You know my iPod does what it wants when it's on shuffle and I couldn't help but jam (old school word I know) to two of my favs I haven't heard in a loooong time while on the way home.

This first one you know you sang about at least one of your boo's...shoot I still do.

And last but not least Miss Christina who just release a new album Tuesday. I haven't had a listen but I wasn't much of a fan of her new video, but the girl has pipes...no denying that. This video makes me think of the Britney/Christina beef...how we loved to make a big thing outta nothing. LOL.

Changes

2010-06-07T22:05:00.000-07:00

I really wanted to do a beauty post today, but I just got home from a 14-hour day and I'm just not feeling it. Why 14 hours you ask? Oh that's just because I finally GOT A JOB! TWO ACTUALLY!

Yes God has been so good that I have two internships this summer working for the City of Los Angeles. Although politics is not my forte, I'm looking forward to the experiences and definitely the networking. So I'm just a little pooped. I went from having nothing to do to not having enough time to do anything. But what's the funniest part is that the more busy I am, the more I wanna blog...I don't get it but I'll run with it.

Anyhoo catch you queens on the flipside!

Alright Then Kelly Girl

2010-06-06T21:26:00.000-07:00

Here's a few snapshots of Kelly Rowland for South Africa's Cosmo and she is clearly WERKING it! And congrats to her getting signed with Universal Motown. I think she definitely survive as a solo artist, well at least I hope so.

And check her new video "Commander"....

Kelly Rowland & David Guetta Commander | video.mynet.com

She. Better. Work.

Ooo I Like!

2010-06-06T21:11:00.000-07:00

Awhile back I was given a gift certificate to LUSH Cosmetics for my birthday. It was a nice amount so you know I didn't hold back. But I must say after all the things I've been using this baby right here...

Flying Fox $9.95-$26.95

It's GOLDEN. Well Flying Fox actually. With the main ingredient being honey, it has a very sweet smell with a hint of jasmine. They said it's good for PMS and a bit of a aphrodisiac (say what now?). You know those days where you're just tired out of your mind, stressed etc. or extremely emotional and just had a good cry and wanna take a shower? Use this...trust it'll make it all go away. At least for a few minutes.

Real Talk

2010-06-06T21:06:00.000-07:00

I've been saved since I was 8 years old but I didn't start living for Christ until my sophomore year in college. And even then I wasn't walking as upright as I should have been. Guys and relationships have always been a stumbling block for me. My desire for attention and affection can result in me making a phone call to someone I know good and well I need to leave alone. As women, we've always been told to guard our hearts. And as much as I heard it, I never put it into practice.

But at the moment I'm starting to make some changes in my life, my walk with Christ and how I deal with male relationships...friendships and beyond. I here I find Pastor Justin of The Passion 4 Christ Movement and many of his videos talk about how we should maintain healthy Godly relationships. It was such an eye-opener to me I had to share.

So....

2010-06-05T16:00:00.001-07:00

Get up, get out and do something!

Helloooo Transition!

2010-05-25T12:16:00.000-07:00

I figured I probably better keep track of my transitioning phase. So here are the first two wigs I was wearing....

"Renee"

"Celtic Girl"

And the two-strands...

Stats:

-22 weeks post-relaxer

-14 weeks till my BC (at least for now lol)

I'm gonna try some new styles with my two-stands so I can get outta this boring stage so more pics to come next week!

Going Down The Tube

2010-05-24T15:30:00.000-07:00

I think all of America and pretty much the world has realized the face of television has changed. We're now in a time where people would rather see meltdowns and catfights rather than genuine comedy and edge-of-your-seat drama. Reality TV has truly taken over. 20 shows have been cancelled between ABC, NBC and CBS.

Although some of these shows maybe weren't the best, here are struggling actors trying to make a name for themselves while they are overshadowed by the next reality star that gets their 15 minutes of fame. You almost ask...what's the need for real actors anymore? For goodness sakes they have a new show coming on called 'Jersey Couture'....do we have to continue to make shows about being who are from Jersey?? #justsayin'. Now I won't lie there's some reality shows I can't get away from (Basketball Wives, Keeping Up With The Joneses, Bad Girls Club) but I'm ready for better dramas, real (not corny) comedy, and a show that will hold my interest.

I do still have faith in my favorites; Glee, Law & Order: SUV...and I just got hip to Grey's Anatomy again after that CRAZY season finale. If you didn't see it YOU. ARE. MISSING. OUT. But I have a glimmer of hope for the fall season. NBC has stepped up their game and will be having a new show called 'The Undercovers' starring Boris Kodjoe. Finally black main characters not in the typical roles...right on!

Even though I felt like the preview gave almost everything away, it still looks like it's gonna be a good

one. And my hope is definitely renewed after hearing Tia Mowry confirm 'The Game' WILL have new

episodes on BET starting this fall.

Yeah TV may be going down the tube but hopefully it'll get some support to last a little longer

No Sir Not My Parade

2010-05-18T16:39:00.000-07:00

This song is the epitome of how I feel today

The Hair Debate (once again)

2010-05-17T16:11:00.002-07:00

If you've been following this blog for sometime it's no secret that I change my hair far too often. But you're only young once right? So last summer I was technically transitioning from relaxed to natural by wearing weaves.

All was well until I took the thing out and did not enjoy taking care of two textures of hair. Although I did enjoy my rod set.

So I said "f-it" and got a relaxer. And boy oh boy was that thing silky smooth perfection.

But I got the weave itch again and had two sew-ins back to back. I got my last sew-in in December which I relaxed the day before I got it so my edges would sit nicely. But after 4 months it was time to take it out. And to my surprise my hair grew like CRAZY!

This is the longest it's ever been. So I came to face a decision of again dealing with two textures (I had at least 3-4 inches of new growth), relax or go back to weaves. Well my bank account said no to weaves. I considered relaxing again because I had gained so much growth I thought why not try to keep it up, but I knew it could be more damaging later on. And now natural is knocking at my door and you know what? I'm letting it in!

I've made the conscious decision to go natural. For the summer I have two-strand twists but come August/September and maybe sooner, I'm doing the big chop and not looking back. I'm getting some great tips and gawking at naturals on Black Girl With Long Hair....and I still read Black Hair Care Forum from time to time (these websites are addictive I tell you!). So I will most definitely be documenting this journey. There is finally no more debate!

Bravo Alicia!

2010-05-13T18:31:00.001-07:00

I finally watched Alicia Keys' new video "Unthinkable" and all I can say is BRAVO! The song itself is beautiful....wasn't a big fan of her album but the song is the business. And having Chad Michael Murray is a good look...love the story line, love it all!

Did you catch her playing Snake on the old Nokia phone...classic!!

Absolutely Delicious

2010-05-05T08:33:00.000-07:00

Happy Cinco de Mayo!

I look forward to this holiday because it gives me a reason to eat mexican food ALLL day long. I might throw in a few margaritas but dang they're so full of calories!! Maybe half of one though. Anyhoo, enjoy the day KabQueens!

2010-05-03T12:43:00.000-07:00

Fear. We loathe it but yet we sometimes embrace it. I chose to talk about fear as a way to usher in writing/blogging again.

Fear can paralyze us from doing our greatest deeds and committing our deepest passions in life. The world of the unknown can hold back the blessings that God desires to give. I say this because I know it.

I can’t give a concrete fact on why I started blogging, I just did. I read so many others blogs on a daily basis, I just though I’d give it a shot. And I did and wanted to quit more than once. Why? Fear, plain and simple. Fear of no one wanting to listen to what I had to say. Fear of my blog being overshadowed and unknown. Fear of failing at such a simple thing as blogging. A lot of thought into something so little huh?

It’s what fear and especially jealousy and envy can do. Today I heard envy is basically resenting what God has blessed someone else with. That right there shut me up. After I set up Kabuki Queen my enjoyment for reading other blogs slowly became competition in my head. I’d question why they had so many followers, or such a great design or good topics. I started to forget what God had begun in me and an outlet of enjoyment became, well, not enjoyable. I stayed away from KabQueen and reading other blogs because I didn’t feel up to par with mine and reading others would only magnify what I wasn’t doing or felt that I couldn't do. Also adding to the fact that I was sulking in my current situation of being jobless, school-less and living with my parents again, no friends or boyfriend around.

I let my circumstances shape my attitude. I know this makes me sound so ugly, bitter and juvenile. But I’ve had a turning point. I’m not gonna promise a new Kabuki Queen. I’m gonna promise to be honest at all times, to share what’s on my mind whether you agree or don’t and most of all let this blog be a reflection of me, embracing me and loving me in spite of any circumstances. No fear.

For the readers who know I follow their blogs and to future readers whose blogs I’ll discover and start to follow: I support you a 110%. You’re expressing who you are and I applaud and admire it! We are our own community of people who want to share thoughts, feelings and whatever else comes to mind; to me it’s a beautiful thing. No jealousy, no envy. Just love and support.

So hopefully you understand where I’m coming from, if not well I feel better that I got it all out and that’s what counts. Whether you’re at work, home, Starbucks or wherever raise your water, coffee, drink or even food to being you with NO FEAR!

P.S. Thank you to all who have supported Kabuki Queen with comments or even just reading, I appreciate it, truly.

Golden Days

2010-04-16T07:29:00.001-07:00

We won't even discuss how long I've been gone, yes indeed too long.

However Happy Friday! I'm going to keep this post short and shiny because yours truly is packing for Vegas as I type. Why? It's my birthday! Well tomorrow. Yes the big 2-4 has arrived and why not do it Vegas style?

Speaking of birthdays and style our own Ms. Nels will be celebrating a birthday as well next week. As we all wanna do each birthday dripped in fab, Ms. Nels wanted to go gold for her 23rd. Here's a few ideas to dazzle the special day.

Nicole Miller Gold Trimmed Gathered Sateen Halter Dress-$238.99

Mobile City Dress in Taupe-$46.00

Metallic Bubble Dress-$39.80

Nicole Miller Copper Stretched Metal Ruched Dress-$226.99

Scatter Sequin Open Back Dress-$67.64

Classic Thursday's

2010-03-04T14:32:00.000-08:00

Now I have to preface before you watch the video that I used to be SO jealous of these little girls in the video. I wanted to dace next to Whitney and throw my Just For Me permed hair everywhere and wear a cool motorcycle jacket. Ah...childhood dreams. Anyhoo, this is definitely a classic...enjoy!

But I most certainly cannot let this post go by without giving the true props to the original song and songstress. Gotta love Chaka.

Feeling This Flavor

2010-03-02T15:53:00.000-08:00

I always enjoy seeing new online publications geared towards African American females, since we barely see it in print publications. With that said, there is new magazine that hit the net yesterday that you definitely need to add to your favorites, it's Salt Magazine.

So I'm sure your thinking in your head, "why salt?". Well I could paraphrase it in my own words but it won't do it justice, so here's their mission straight from source:

From the Publisher::
----------------------------------------------------------------------
Salt Magazine is the place to taste the good life.

Our belief is that the good life is NOT the unachievable life that you die wishing you could have lived up to. Rather, we believe
that the good life is one where you dream big, face reality,
embrace life’s challenges, conquer circumstances and develop
wholeness in every aspect of your life.

As we all grow and mature, we realize that this good life
doesn’t just fall into our laps; and THAT'S what makes it all
worthwhile.

If your life represented one grain of salt, how would it taste?
Would it enhance the flavor of everything it came in contact
with?

Salt is committed to delivering practical solutions to help you
enhance the flavor of your greatest gift of all: Life.

There’s a gift that God has given you, and in each issue of
Salt we will encourage you to tap into it and share it with the
world. After all, what is the purpose of salt but to enhance flavor?

So, enjoy our launch issue! We hope it brings renewal and
refreshment to the ingredients of your life that need it most; and
we look forward to sharing our Salt with you in the many issues
to come.

From one grain of Salt to another,

Carline R. Léger
Publisher, Salt Magazine

Sounds amazing doesn't it? It is! I'm so happy to see a publication dedicated to empower women using the gifts that God has given them while also giving praise to Him. Uber fabulous. I couldn't help but love it too since my friend Dominique is one of the contributors. So do two things check out www.salt-mag.com and Dominique's blog, turnyalifeup.blogspot.com ...both will encourage and uplift!

Vogue Black & Vogue Curvy: Step Up or Step Down?

2010-03-02T15:25:00.000-08:00

I'm sure you're well aware that Vogue Italia has launched two new sites dedicated to black women and curvy women and there's definitely been some praise and backlash.

I was very proud when Vogue Italia premiered "A Black Issue" in July 2008 with nothing but black models throughout the whole magazine.

That's something that isn't common in fashion magazines today, my only problem was (and still is) that US Vogue wasn't doing anything of that nature to embrace black fashion and models. Fast forward to July 2009 they issued the "Black Barbie". Loved it.

Now I'm happy to see that they are taking initiative and creating sites for women that are seen as a minority in fashion. Yet people believe that this isn't making any progress, only further separating us. While I see that viewpoint, I feel that we need to start somewhere. Yes we want to see black and full-figured models adorn the pages of Vogue, Elle, Glamour and don't get me started on Vanity Fair, but I honestly don't feel that the US versions of these magazines will catch the vibe the Vogue Italia is feeling.

I'd rather see a Vogue Black than nothing at all. Which brings me to the point of having a black fashion magazine in print. Remember Suede Magazine? Now that was my ish. I wish I would have appreciated it more when it was around.

So do you think Vogue Black is a step down? And is black fashion and models dying a slow death in America?

And if you haven't already check out Vogue Black and Vogue Curvy

Classic Thursday's

2010-02-25T11:58:00.000-08:00

I don't like using the terms 'Throwback Thursday's' or "Way Back Wednesday's' because I feel like they get used SO much, so I'm gonna settle on Classic Thursday's to share some of my fav classics.

Nonetheless I had these two songs on my mind. Don't you miss Groove Theory?? A little birdie named YBF said they're supposedly getting back together...awesome!

And you don't know how much I miss Faith Evans. This song always puts a little shine in my day. Maybe it's the disco balls that get me.

Chills

2010-02-22T16:19:00.001-08:00

Call me lame or whatever but this version of the Star Spangled Banner absolutely gives me chills when Whitney performed it.

Talent shown at it's greatest and makes me proud to be an American just a little bit more.

SANG WOMAN, SANG!

Don't You Wish That....

2010-02-22T14:51:00.000-08:00

there was a decent male r&b group
i know there are a few of them out there, but i miss boyz II men, blackstreet, guy...that could SANG.

girlfriends had a proper final episode
the CW was just downright wrong.

people who have beef with you would be adults and say something
i don't understand the ignoring of calls, silent treatment...how am i supposed to know your mad if you don't say anything?!

BET would bring planet groove back
that show was my ish...got my first taste of maxwell on there

when other people stare at you to at least say something
i mean just say "hi", headnod, whatever and if i have something on my face...be nice and say something, i don't care but don't just stare at me!

that shar jackson would stop talking about kfed
okay you can only say so much and the dude isn't even with britney! come on son!

purses wouldn't get so messy so easily

everytime i clean out my purse it seems to get worse before. and don't let my phone ring it's like i'm digging for gold

that's all i had to say...happy monday!

Can You Get It Up?

2010-02-22T14:50:00.001-08:00

Now y'all know I used to love me some Rihanna but the girl has been getting on my nerves....she's everywhere! Just when I was about to give up on her she came out Rude Boy and gosh darnit...I like it! And I like the video too!

Dang you Rihanna for your catchy tunes and bright colored video.

We All Got Them

2010-02-19T13:24:00.000-08:00

Okay I'm stealing this from Birdie at
Peanut Butter Delight(check it out btw!) who stole this from Amy at As For Amy (which by the way I just started reading and I loves it!)

So we all have them. Flaws. Beyonce probably described it in the prettiest way but we know they can get pretty ugly. The challenge is to list all the reasons a guy would not want to date you. Sounds harsh doesn't it, anyways here we go:

1. I'm An Affection Addict

I just want to be held, whether its hands, hug or whatever. Kiss on the forehead, stroke my hair...I want it all. I don't need it to be heavy in public but I realize I do like to at least hold hands. I'm probably this way because I slept in my parents bed till I was 4.

2. I Can Be A Sour Puss

I admit when I have a bad attitude...it's bad, really bad. When I'm in that phase it's hard to shake and sometimes I'll take it out on other people but it's never my intention. But what's even worse is that my words become venom. I feel so bad afterwards!

3. I Never Want To Make The Decisions

I hate it when me and a guy are trying to figure out something to eat and he says "you decide". No, you be the man and choose!

4. I Analyze Too Much

Call it reading between the lines but sometimes I'll look into actions to much to think they mean something else when in reality I'm way off chart.

5. I Like To Fight

No not the dramatic "I hate you Jody!" but I like getting in heated debates. Maybe it's because I like making-up *tee-hee!*

Model City...you feelin' it?

2010-02-19T12:16:00.000-08:00

Yesterday BET's Centric Network premiered their newest show, Model City. Now I was just interested in looking at some fine specimens and you know what, Centric did not fail!

Honestly I'm digging the whole vibe of the show. Although I'm sure it has to be fabricated a little to make for good TV it's nice to see black male models get some spotlight. I had no idea only 2% of modeling jobs are set aside for black male models...crazy right?

The only thing that broke my heart was that one of my favorites Zerick (below) was one of the kids....snap in a circle 3 times. And he surely wasn't afraid to call his man-boo his shorty, can't hate on that.

In case you missed the episodes or want to find more info about the models head over to Centric Tv's Website

No Mean Mug Mondays!

2010-02-19T11:58:00.001-08:00

I was slacking a bit but here are the most recent episodes of The Modern Day Matchmaker. I did enjoy his interview with Helena Andrews. I'm definitely interested to read Bitch Is The New Black.

I think this is my favorite episode of his by far. Mean mugging has definitely become a norm. I can't tell you how many times I'm walking somewhere and a stranger will tell me to smile more. I don't do it on purpose but it just happens. Sometimes I get a little self conscious about my smile, just because I think my cheeks look funny when I do and I have a half-dimple that is just weird. Yeah I know, it's probably just me thinking that. So next Monday I'm going to smile most of the day...at least while I'm out. I'll let you know what happens!

Yipee!!

2010-02-04T16:59:00.001-08:00

I just wanted to acknowledge our new followers...thanks for joining Kabuki Queen! We hope you enjoy every single solitary moment you read our blog.

Now we're up to 52 followers and I'm grateful for each and everyone of you!!

HUBBA HUBBA HUBBA

2010-02-04T16:18:00.000-08:00

Like I've said before, I have crushes on different kind of guys but once in awhile I'll gawk at a fine piece of specimen that pretty much everyone can agree on.

Case in point Devin Thomas of the Washington Redskins.

I was stalking TheYBF the other day and came across these babies:

I. Want. Every. Piece. Of. This. Man. CHILE!

But I'm not usually down for a man in a onsie of some sort but uh, I'll let that one slide. And he has a Twitter! http://twitter.com/Devinthomas

But who doesn't nowadays...well me. LOL.

TheYBF and Getty Images

I Just Keep Going

2010-02-04T16:07:00.000-08:00

I'll explain the lack of updates. Three words:

Applying for Graduate School...yeah more like four.

I really haven't had much time for ANYTHING. My schedule goes like this. Monday through Friday:

-Workout 8-9am

-GRE Studying/Grad Apps 11am-6pm

-Eat/Catch-up on Wendy Williams 7-8pm

-Caking 8pm till I fall asleep

And Saturday mornings are dedicated to my GRE Prep class so that consumes most of the day.

Sunday is church and sleep that I didn't get over the week (I know, so unhealthy!)

UGH! This grad school application thing is no joke! But this is something I truly want so I'll work as hard as I can do get it.

But let me tell you the library I go to have some of the most interesting, peculiar people I've ever seen. It's great entertainment.

So I just wanted to update you guys and I'm working on new posts now...no like right now!

Smoocheese!

I'd Like To 'Chew' A Piece Of This Hubba Hubba

2010-01-24T21:10:00.001-08:00

I'll be the first to admit I have weird crushes, most of them will be on the not so obvious men. Which brings to my newly titled 'Hubba Hubba' of the moment (Man of the Moment was so plain) Chiwetel Ejiofor or Chewy. No seriously I read that's his nickname. Goes great with the post doesn't it...you know, chewy...hubba hubba..like the gum...yeah? No? Okay.

Anyways!

I know you're like, who is this dude? Look at the pictures...he'll ring a bell (or he can ring mine :smirk:...I kid)

He can be recongized for his roles in '2012', 'Talk to Me' and 'She Hate Me'...and if you haven't seen Talk To Me...go rent it...NOW! It's worth it :)

I think what makes him so sexy is when he talks. Oh how I swoon over British accents and theater-trained actors :sigh:

The Real Hitch/Tough Love?

2010-01-24T13:47:00.000-08:00

So I was over at Clutch Magazine and ran across a video of the Modern Day Matchmaker. Of course I was curious as to what this was and a little YouTube watching let me know who Paul Carrick Bruson is and what he's setting out to do.

Now after watching the first episode I was a little perturbed. Me? Bossy? Women need to act more feminine? I could hear my professors from my feminism classes jumping on every word this guy said. But as I watched his other two episodes I can't lie and say it wasn't interesting and he definitely gave some practical information. Check it out and give your thoughts!

Because At Some Point We Wanted That Side-Swoop

2010-01-20T21:43:00.000-08:00

You would be lying if you said you've never been at the beauty shop and asked for an Aaliyah side-swoop....no? Okay maybe just me.

Anyways I thought I'd pay homage to a Kabuki Queen in her own right. January 16th she would have turned 31, so happy belated birthday Aaliyah we miss you, your music, dancing, fashion and that long hair don't care!

This song never gets old...

Time's A Tickin'....

2010-01-20T19:29:00.000-08:00

So awhile back I made a list of 23 things I want to do while I'm 23. I haven't quite made it through half the list but I have a little less than 3 months to finish...guess I better start making use of my time!

My 23 While I’m 23

1. Throw a dinner party
2. Learn a new language
3. Travel to a city I’ve never been to
4. Get one last tattoo
5. Get a better score on the GRE
6. Write a novel or short story (just in case)
7. Give my mother a full makeover
8. Maintain a weight of 150
9. Wear a solid size 8
~~10. Hang out with my brother for one full day (because we barely even talk)~~ God has been good because we've been spending much more time together...even went snowboarding!
11. Play racket ball with my dad
12. Take a cooking class
13. See at least three concerts
~~14. Make it to 100 posts on my blog~~ WooHoo!
~~15. Take a dance class~~ Try being in a class with stick thin 13 year-olds...but it was fun!
16. Take a vacation somewhere outside the US
17. Run in a marathon
18. Go to a strip-aerobics class
~~19. Go to an actual strip club~~ I went to the Pink Slip in East. St. Louis...SMH is all I have to say or not say

20. Give more than I receive
~~21. Move to a different city (or get out of St. Louis!)~~ Well I moved back home to Cali so I guess that counts
22. Perform at a spoken word event
23. Become a DJ (seriously)

Make Me Over!

2010-01-20T16:20:00.000-08:00

Who doesn’t love change? I know some change can be uncomfortable but in the end it’s in our favor. At least that’s what I tell myself everyday.

As you know or may not know I moved back to California after living in St. Louis for a little over 5 years. I was so ready for a change of scenery. And when I left I felt like I had everything in the bag….job interview lined up, going back to grad school. I’m on my way right?

Wrong. Dead wrong. It’s funny how we have a plan for ourselves…so sure it’s gonna work out then God says “No, not this time.” And all you wanna scream is, “BUT WHY??” and cry…cause that’s what I definitely did. The past couple of months have been a humbling experience…moving back home with my parents, looking for work and spending my days doing a whole lotta nothing. It’s not where I saw myself and it isn’t a place that I want to be. So I’m making the decision to be made over...completely! Life is too short to waste time and God has blessed me too much for me not to do anything. I’m not feeling sorry for myself and my current situation; all I can do is make the most of it.

All of which to say is Welcome to the new, fabulously improved Kabuki Queen! I felt like it was time I take more pride in the work that I set out to do and I know Ms. Nels would not let this fall to the wayside. So we’re here to stay and we hope you all will stay with us by reading, comments and just continuing to show us love. Oh and last but not least muchas gracias to Divalicious Designs for making this great layout and putting up with me when I didn’t know what I was doing!

Much joy,

Fab_E

Revamp!

2010-01-13T14:17:00.002-08:00

Happy New Year!

I hope everybody's holiday's were fabulous as ours was. We must again apologize for the lack of updates but we're pleased to inform that Kabuki Queen is going to be under a little maintenance but I do promise (I hate breaking promises therefore I don't) that the site will be new and improved. I mean, who doesn't love good change? So hold tight and look forward to the new Kabuki Queen and thanks for your continued support. :)

Friday Afternoons

2009-11-27T11:35:00.002-08:00

As I sit here at my desk on a Friday afternoon, winding down to my reggae/caribbean, I thought how relaxed I feel today. I woke up at 4:30a a little anxious to come to work this morning because I knew I would be in the office by myself (for the first time) until about 9a. In order to get in work mode, I prayed. Yes, prayer works! I came in to work with a different attitude. Instead of coming in already defeated, I came in confident with a smile. I figured if I didn't know something or how to do something I had to improvise. What's wrong with a little spice in your life, right?

I'm at the end of my work day and am ready to start life (well, my weekend at least)! I finally get a moment to breathe and I realized just how soothing the sounds of Raheem DeVaughn, mixed with a little reggae, and the right attitude make for a pretty funky afternoon. Now it's your turn...what gets you through a Friday workday? What keeps you relaxed until 5p hits? Do Tell!

Check Me On Your Video Phone

2009-11-17T19:03:00.003-08:00

I know a lot of people are probably Beyonce-d out but you have to admit this video she is giving the business and adding GaGa to it too?

I love it!

Vintage Fab

2009-11-14T17:03:00.002-08:00

If you guys are familiar with The Fashion Bomb better start getting aquainted..trust it will change your fashion game for life!

Anyways they have a new post called Vintage Fab, asking readers to send in vintage pics of their family working out the fashions of the past and your own Kabuki Queen's family was featured! Check it out!

I'm Still A Rockstar...

2009-11-12T15:18:00.005-08:00

So as I was making the changes to the blog Pink's "So What" came up on my playlist. It's a fun song to rock out to but I actually started listening to it and realized it applied to me more than I thought.

Oh trust I'm not trying to start trouble or have me or my ex start a fight. But Pink is basically saying, "Look so what if you're gone, so what if you're lame...I'm still fabulous and even more fabulous since you've been gone."

Story of my life.

Since I left you last it seemed like every male relationship I once had or currently have just burst into flames. I had got so down and out about myself that it was showing in everything. Ladies, I know there always is always a small portion of us that wants to be validated at some point, especially by a guy (if you don't agree it's cool, but hey when it comes to me that's what it is). And when it seems like no one appreciates you, it just sucks!

But hold up!

I had to look at myself and literally say "I am worth it, and if he can't see it then there is obviously something wrong with him" and pretty much any other guy that can't see that. So...

So what, I don't need you

So what, I'm better without you anyway

So what, I still look TOO damn good

So what, it's you're loss player

So what, I'm alright and just fine

And so what, I'm still the sh*t b*tch!! *snaps in a circle 3 times*

Don't mean to be hostile, just had to make the point :). But here's a few videos just to make you feel good and know that if your in a similar situation, you're better without him. And fellas if you're feeling the same way, you're better without her!

Enjoy!

Guess Who?

2009-11-12T14:32:00.004-08:00

I hope you all didn’t forget about me!

First off I want to thank everyone who was supportive as I took a hiatus and especially thanks to Ms. Nels holding KabQueen down while I’ve been gone. Can’t believe I’ve been gone over two months!

There’s so much to discuss I know I won’t be able to put it in this one post but I just wanted to let you all know this for right now:

I’m baaaaaaaacccckkkkk!

Just Live Your Life

2009-10-17T21:26:00.004-07:00

In talking to my parentals this past Friday I realized that my life has succumbed to going out on the weekend (even if I didn't want to) just to say I did something exciting in my life. I expressed my concern to them that I didn't want to work and go to school all week just to sit in the house on the weekend resting, though, very tempting. Contrary to my feelings of "homebody-ness" I went out last night and all day today, which proved to be a good time. Let me take this opportunity to say that you should really start experiencing life in a different way everyday. Do something you've never done before, research places you always drive past but never go to, or out with people that you don't tend to go out with, just to keep things spicy and fresh. Note: this can be done at any age. Warning: this will make you feel forever young and often rejuvenated/refreshed.

Let me take this time to shed a little light on my current experience: I went to a club (all white, except for my friend and I) for one of my classmates bday party. When I got there, she wasn't there and we were the target black people for at least an hour...muy uncomfortable, so ready to leave but I had just paid 16 for parking, NOT EVEN! Despite my discomfort, we stuck it out and ended up making new party buddies, hooking up with my friend who was so happy to see me again, and we did it all...wait for it...SOBER, can you believe it! Talk about doing different stuff. You don't have to switch up everything, just do something you always do with a little twist. Point 2: today I went apple picking, drank cider (which I hated before today) and ate apple cinnamon donuts, and went to a petting zoo all while the weather switched from rainy/cloudy to sunny/rainy and back again. SIDEBAR: now ladies, how about you allow your hair to get wet once in your lifetime...it won't kill you, trust me and it is so liberating! And we're back: ended the night at my cousin's house watching an old 90s movie that I hadn't seen and am too embarrassed to even mention the name.

Not saying you have to do anything I've done on my list of random things, but find something out of the ordinary and JUST DO IT...one thing I absolutely agree with Nike on! Live life, no regrets!

ZEBRA season!

2009-09-21T08:53:00.003-07:00

Hi All,

I'm looking for a little black (or white) dress to wear to my first black and white ball! I'm extremely excited, but I have no idea where to look. I guess I don't fit the 'every girl' mold because the fashion literature definitely says I should not only have one LBD, but two. I'm way behind the curve! Right now, I'm looking online, but I would love to know some actual stores I can stop in. Please help a sister out! And men, I would love your input on what kind of dress you like to see women in...this is a group project, thx!
Sincerely,

Nel

CR

2009-09-17T09:23:00.003-07:00

I hate getting on here after years of being away, however, I only write when I'm extra excited or confused about something and need the opinion of fellow, fabulous peers!

Now, to the real reason why I'm writing this fine day (I'll be short and sweet): I have to admit that I have fallen prey to the Charlotte Russe monster! The clothes, um...not really my thing, but I goes nowhere else for my accessories, bomb diggity (how was that for hood?)!

I was in the store a few weeks ago to buy another pair of the fabulous earrings I already own, but this time for my little sister who recently turned 8, and is just as grown as me I might add. Anyone that's already hip to the CR bomb, you should already know that you can always come out of there with two pieces of jewelry for 8 bucks. I scooped up the old earrings for lil sis and grabbed a new, fun pair for my weekend dinner party. Got to the register, happy to have found what I was looking for and decided to give the ring basket on the front counter a quick look-through.

Wasn't I happy I did because it was then I spotted a small sign behind the registers stating a 10% discount to all students and military personnel. I asked the cashier what I had to do to receive the discount, and she told me just show my school idea. ALL STUDENTS receive 10% off, EVERY PURCHASE! Now, I know 10% is just tax, at least in Chicago, but during this recession that the rest of the world is going through (seeing as I'm not participating), I thought this would be most helpful to any and everyone looking for a break...Stop on by and be on the lookout for anymore of these "small signs"! Happy shopping ;)

Mental Break

2009-09-05T17:29:00.003-07:00

As you can see there's definitely been a lack of updates, usually it'll be cause I'm busy etc. but I've just been frozen...it might be a bad case of writers block. I feel like I've just lost my motivation...with getting ready to move, applying for grad school, and life in general has got my mind in a totally different place. I'm definitely not depressed just...blah. Ever had one of those moments?

So I'll call this hiatus a mental break. I promise I won't leave you guys hanging for too long but please bear with me as I'm going through this awkward transitioning phase. I still appreciate everyone's support and please continue to support and once I get over this I'll continue to bring you posts. :)

KabQueen On The Move...Literally.

2009-08-27T13:26:00.003-07:00

So I've actually known about this but I may as well make it known. I'm originally from a suburb outside of Los Angeles, California and after much thinking, praying etc. I've decided to move back to California.

St. Louis has been good to me but I know its been time for me to move on especially for my career path. I'm pretty sad that I am leaving, I've made my closest friends here, I've basically made my life here and to switch it up is going to be kinda weird. But I'll be living with Mom and Dad (we'll see how that goes) and it'll be nice to be closer to them and my brother.

And you can't hate on the weather!

So I just wanted to keep ya'll updated and better believe I WILL be blogging about this new experience!

Jeans please!

2009-08-20T11:17:00.003-07:00

hi all,

i've been gone for ages, but like ej, i have been also traveling the globe (to her hometown of fabulous LA). i know most blogs offer information, but today i'm looking for some jean knowledge. i need jeans! i would love to be able to order them online, but i'm an in-between size type of girl so i have to try everything on. does anyone order jeans online and they're true to size? i just bought a pair of lees from marshalls that fit really well, but i want some skinnys for cheap...any suggestions?
thanks in advance,

nel

For The Boys Who Rocked My World

2009-08-19T12:09:00.008-07:00

Today I was reminiscing on the crushes I used to have when I was younger. Literally these boys used to make me swoon!

First Brandon Adams.

You know him from the TV movie "Polly" with Keisha Knight Pulliam, The People Under The Stairs, The Sandlot, The Mighty Ducks and a few episodes of Fresh Prince, but he stole my heart as little Michael in Moonwalker.

I recently found him on Twitter and tweeted that I had such a crush on him back in the day and he even tweeted me back saying thanks! Man I was smiling ALL day!

Does he still make me swoon...eh not so much but he'll always be boo from back in the day.

Lastly Jason Weaver.

We all know him from Smart Guy, ATL and many other things but he stole my heart as little Michael in The Jacksons' American Dream.

I couldn't deny a face like that.

Would I holler now? Nah, not so much. But he is talented so hopefully we'll see him in more and possibly less bootleg movies :cough: Love For Sale :cough:

Funny how they both played little Michael Jackson and I both loved them. Ah, memories.

Old Habits Die Hard...I Guess

2009-08-17T20:20:00.006-07:00

This comment was so outlandish I had to vent about it.

Today my roomies and I were discussing the stigma of darker skin women having shorter hair. Its sad to see that some men and even some women overlook true beauty because it's not packaged in the standard of "American Beauty". What makes it even more sad is to see African American men publicly downgrade dark skin women who wear their hair natural. My roomie told us a well know man-whore/jerk around St. Louis made a comment about her natural hair on Facebook.

Let's view Exhibit A:

"that is disgusting...how do you coloreds maintain such nappiness!! im so happy to be a (he put his last name here)!! need a comb?"

*The guy who said this has light skin and very curly hair*

I couldn't even find the words to say after we saw this. Its a shame to see how American standards of beauty have plagued the black community. Are we suddenly now not considered beautiful because the texture of our hair? I got so mad to see another black man not only refer to another black woman as a "colored" but blatantly disrespect the style she chooses to wear her hair. As my roommates discussed this, it all brought memories of girls in elementary school that would be "grossed out" at texture of our hair and the oil we had in it and that we weren't "normal" because we didn't wash our hair everyday. And for another man to say pretty much the same thing, at that a black man?? I ask myself, how was this boy raised? Was he taught that the finer the hair the better? This type of view is embedded in him and it probably won't change.

This made me realize is that the racism within our own community still lives and still continues to tear us apart. The light vs. dark complex is apparent throughout the media. Black women in hair commercials always having sleek, straight hair, makeup ads targeted towards lighter-skin women. When black men are discussing the beauty of women the comment "she's cute for a dark skin girl" always, always, always comes up. It's been said to my face, and I think 'is that supposed to make me feel better about myself?' Why do we feed into this obscure opinion? Why are celebrities like Lil' Kim, harm their bodies to make themselves look lighter with more European features. Why don't black men embrace true beauty with whatever shade or hair texture?

:Sigh:

There's so much more I want to say but I could continue to talk about this for weeks. So ladies and gents, how do you feel about this comparison of light vs. dark, natural vs. straight? Will this issue continue or are we seeing changes within media of what black beauty is?

Let Me Count The Ways

2009-08-17T20:16:00.003-07:00

So I had my iPod shuffle on while riding in the car and this song came on. It's a throwback but I love it and love vintage Shemar Moore even mooorree!

Where Brooklyn At??

2009-08-13T14:40:00.014-07:00

Just as I promised here are a few pics from my New York trip....enjoy!

Me infront of the Apollo and me at the All White Party which was SO much fun!

I forgot what this park was called but it was by NYU and just beautiful and this is us on the big ferris wheel @ Coney Island

Me visiting the CNN studios (that's where Anderson Cooper sits...yum!) and me and my friend Ashley that came down to visit.

Us at Cain (I think that's what it was called) with some rando and me and my roomie on the swings in Central Park

Me before our first night out...that dressed had a few malfunctions :/

If This Was My Trainer...I'd Be With Him Too!

2009-08-13T13:25:00.002-07:00

So remember Ms. Kimberly Locke from American Idol and later Celebrity Fit Club...well did you know she's hooked up with Mr. Harvey from Fit Club?? I had no idea! But shoot...I would do it too!

Get it girl! Cute couple!

Photo Courtesy of Concrete Loop

Finally Back!

2009-08-11T19:02:00.002-07:00

I feel like I've been gone forever!

But I had a wonderful time in New York! It definitely made me realize that that is the city I need to be in. Mission move to New York City is ON! Special thanks to the ladies of Almost Famous for giving us great suggestions on where to go...next time we're hanging out ladies!

New York makes you wanna step up your fab game too, just so much individuality for great inspiration to add to your own personal style. And can we talk about the men!

Beautiful! Fresh lining's everywhere...gotta love it. I'll definitely be sure to update with pics once I download to the comp. But that's all I got for now folks...hope everyone is doing well. I'm brewing some new posts as I type so more to come!

100th Post For Each Of You

2009-08-02T14:52:00.005-07:00

Okay so the reason we didn't post all week was because we were trying to figure out something special for our 100th post. What did we come up with?

Thank you.

PastryJunkie

AGILES

Necole

Sherry

RoSi

Breakfast at Hillary’s

Ms. Danyelle

m-online08

TuLuAt

God Among Us!

Ms. Minnie

Reese

Kelly, Nina & Kiyyah

Little Miss Knobody

Down Low

Cecelia

Cerebrally_Orgasmic

A.r.v.y.

Retromusik

Jillian

Yayemarie

Miss Wilson

TRU IDENTITY

NaturallyYanTan

Miss.Fortune

Nikki.Kisses

K. Michel

S Jones

Melanie

Ja$mine Ra;chelle

Robert

(vixenchick)

Gregory Jones (miss you boo!)

K*Mack

Carmel Mimi

Cc.Denise

Lil’Diddy

Sunshyne

Juicy Carter

1824

Without you, we wouldn't of made it to 100 posts. We know it may not seem like a big deal for 100 posts, but to me us it's the world. We said we would do something (blogging) and we're doing it and we're thankful that each of you respond with such postivity that keeps this going.

Thanks again and promise more posts tonight!

Throwback Classic

2009-07-25T13:43:00.003-07:00

My best friend and I used to sing this song...I'd wanna be Monica but got stuck with being Brandy. Oh well, love them both.

Enjoy!

Help!

2009-07-23T14:48:00.002-07:00

Help!

I'm taking a trip to New York City the first week of August with my roomies and I have no idea what to do! Clubs, restaurants, bars, museums? Help a queen out!

So if you guys know any good places to go to or have some websites I should visit to get info, PLEASE let me know!

muchas gracias!

You Can Have Me and My Blood!

2009-07-23T11:12:00.010-07:00

It's been a minute since I've done a Man of the Moment, so this week I bring....

Mehcad Brooks!

You may know him from his short role on Desperate Housewives.

And you can't forget him as Jerome on The Game

Now, you can catch him on True Blood. And ladies did you see that last episode where he was giving that girl the business?? Oh.Em.Gee. It just got wayy too hot in here.

If you wanna check out his feature films he also was in Glory Road.

With abs like that..who wouldn't love him?

Can't get enough? Stalk him on Twitter....http://twitter.com/Mehcadbrooks

Do You Boo

2009-07-23T08:05:00.004-07:00

I must say I was surprised to see Solange go for the big chop, maybe with a little lining and brush it won't be so bad. But it made me think. She could give two bricks about what everyone else thinks...she's doing her. Can you blame her for it?

Which brings me to my next point. In a world with trendsetting divas, fashion icons and fads I feel that we can get lost. Fashion and society say no to wearing this but yes to wearing that. I feel that style does make a statement as to who you are. You like wearing sweats most of the time? Then you're a laid back kinda gal. Heels just to go to the store? You like to keep it fierce. And there is truly nothing wrong with it. Ladies we can't loose who we are just because "they" say it's not hot. We can keep up with trends and make it our label.

Now don't get me wrong there are some fashion tragedies, you know you can tell when someone didn't look in the mirror before they left the house. And sometimes personal style needs a little tweaking (i.e. What Not To Wear...love that show!).But even when you see that girl rocking plaid tights in the dead heat of summer, if she's walking with her head held high, rocking it like it was on the front page of Italian Vogue, well then I give her my props. She's comfortable in her own skin and that's what truly matters.

So my tip for the day....do you boo. Don't pay attention to what he or she says. Confidence surpasses Chanel....feel me?

Au Natural Part 2

2009-07-22T17:49:00.005-07:00

I feel like I've been gone so long!

Ah, well I still don't have a job BUT it's okay...I'm still looking up and know that something will come up soon. In the meantime I've been on my workout game which I'm very proud of...it's such a stress reliever too!

And in the process I changed my hair...again! This time no weave :gasps: I know, I know.

I just decided to work with my own. The rod set is working for the moment..gives me the curly fro effect plus I don't have to comb it, just pick it out. And it definitely works because I'm half natural half relaxed, so it's not too noticable. So I definitely was happy Ms. Nels did a post on being natural and big thanks to those who gave tips! I will be checking out those products ASAP.

So just wanted to give an update...more posts coming tonight..yay!

Oh and 40 followers now! Ya'll really love us! And we love ya'll back...so welcome new followers...keep giving feedback!

au natural

2009-07-21T07:40:00.003-07:00

i've been natural for two years now and though i spend hours straightening my hair per week, i can't help but wanting to stay relaxer-less. i'm rocking the curly fro right now, but i really wish it wasn't so dry. does anyone have any good experiences with products on the market for natural hair? sometimes a sister (yes, sister not sistah) wants to rock out without having to deal with is my wrap total frizz yet! help!!!

I Always Feel Like Somebody's Watchin' Me....

2009-07-15T21:55:00.003-07:00

Of course with my lack of updates I know I'm slacking at reading everyone's blogs and I'm gonna be getting back on it. I'm telling you this is the first time I've been on a computer all day and it's about to be 12 midnight.

So soon enough I'll be back to reading and posting comments on everyone's blogs...I miss reading them everyday!

Sweet dreams everyone!

My Love Is Deeper, Tighter, Sweeter, Higher, Flyer...Didn't You Notice? Apprently Not.

2009-07-14T16:07:00.005-07:00

I had to quote my girl Jill Scott in the title, "My Love" is not only a great song but a song that I seem to share something in common with after this past Saturday.

I broke up with my ex a month ago. Needless to say I was happy. I no longer had to deal with the pains of a long distance relationship and got to enjoy the freedom of being single. I also came to a realization that I truly was not IN love with my boyfriend but I had love for him. He and I just saw things differently and the "honeymoon" phase couldn't last forever, there was too much difficulty for such a long distance.

You never want to hear about your ex finding a new love so soon after you. In the back of your mind you want to be the girl that he's tripping over, the girl he can't get over, the girl that no other girl will compare to. It boosts your ego, you know? Which is why I possibly have a problem with the following situation.

On Saturday my ex got married...yes the negro got married after a month of us being dunzo.

Wow, is all I could say.

Yes I didn't want to be with him but dang, really? We were together for 5 months...not long, but long enough to put in effort for 4 out of the 5 that the relationship was long distance relationship work...i.e. writing letters, going to their graduation ON your birthday (very hard pill to swallow). When I found out all I could say was congratulations. Of course I wasn't going to let him see the worst of me. Funny thing was he wasn't going to tell me, I forced it out of him after seeing his strange status on Facebook and prying him with questions about it until he admitted that he was indeed married.

But as I was talking to my friends and mom about the situation they helped me realize that yes my feelings are hurt but more of my pride is. I hate to be seen as a fool and in some ways I was because either two things could of happened. He was seeing her the whole time he was seeing me, or as soon as we were done he got with her. But married? I didn't see it coming.

I should have though. Because he expressed interest in marrying me, and me moving to where he's getting stationed (he's a Navy man) and starting a family. All of which I truly wasn't ready for.

After the initial stage of anger, I had to sit back and laugh. There seemed to be more to this man that I didn't know which was probably a blessing in disguise. But in it all, I know I deserve better and he was definitely not the best. I wish him all the best of luck and I hope he finds what he's looking for.

As for me, I'll just continue to be a better me. I won't wear my hurt on my face but I won't internalize it either. I'll deal with it now so that it won't become excess baggage. Situations and heartbreaks like these only help you become stronger. I can say that I've been through a lot but I won't become jaded, I'll become wiser.

I won't end this on my high horse BUT he'll never deny that my love was deeper, tighter, sweeter, higher, flyer...haha....ya'll get the point :)

Wow...just typing this has made me feel even better. Glad I could get personal with you KabQueens!

So What Had Happened Was...

2009-07-14T16:00:00.002-07:00

Okay guys, I clearly know I've been MIA I guess it's time for some explaining.

When I do my updates 9 times out of 10 I'm at work...clearly I haven't been updating because I haven't been at work because I don't have a job.

Yes the recession has hit home. The company I work for had a 5-year contract with our city school district which was up this year, our contract didn't get renewed but we were welcome to apply for the new company that was coming in. I definitely applied, but didn't get it, and since almost two weeks now, I've been unemployed. It is kind of weird not to have that same routine but having time off has given me time to just....chill. Chill from absolutely everything. I've been wanting to update the blog but I just didn't have it in me...I guess I've been getting my life in general together. I'm also trying to make some big decisions...i.e. moving from St. Louis to...I don't even know yet.

So I just wanted to let you guys know what was up...and I will be updating more this week. It's a promise!

2009-07-06T16:17:00.002-07:00

Let me paint a scenario for you...just imagine that you have found that perfect someone, the person that always came to mind when you thought about your ideal significant other. By some way or another you end up with this person and realize that they are everything you want them to be, everything you ever imagined. However, all your friends, relatives, mentors, etc. tell you that they are no good for you because of a minor technicality (e.g., age, race, etc.), but you choose to ignore them and just enjoy the moment. Sooner than later you find out that the person you're with is freakin amazing and you don't know why everyone was trippin on them until one day you wake up and you don't get a good morning text, no phone call for a week, going out is contingent on you suggesting it, and you stop seeing this person on a regular basis. Now, if both parties are concerned by the list above, then maybe something can be worked out...but if you're the only one that notices it? Hmm...so you keep telling yourself that it is worth it because this is your dream mate; you keep this thing going bc you want it to be better, you know it CAN be better...when is enough, ENOUGH?! When you confront them about it they have nothing to say bc they don't even know this is going on...it's all in your head (right?). As if! (I had to go CLUELESS for a minute, forgive me)

It's obvious that I'm speaking from experience. Needless to say, my dream for the ideal person has not changed, but there have been some major modifications. I had to let that go and am dealing with the mixed emotions of my decision as I write. Am I out here alone or has someone else been through this (or something equally bogus)?

Stars & Stripes

2009-07-04T19:25:00.005-07:00

Happy Independence Day! Does your street look and sound like a war zone or is it just me?

I do find it odd that I had a moment to post during this eventful weekend but see it as I had two huge plates of food today...the itis called me and my friends to retreat to our couch before hitting the town tonight. I have had a blast this weekend so far...I keep forgetting my camera to take pics but I did get a shot from the party photog last night.

It was a nice party. The only thing missing...air conditioning! Stupid hot is all I can say.

Many apologies for the lack of updates...life has been on a bit of a roller coaster (which I'll fill you in later this week). But I will say I'm SO happy to have 37 followers now, WOW! Freakin' amazing dudes! Ya'll already know I'm grateful. So welcome new followers...I'll be sure to check out everyone's blog this week, promise!

So everyone be safe tonight, and don't let the illegal fireworks blow off your hand!

I Feel So Special!

2009-06-29T17:37:00.008-07:00

The lovely Jasmine over at Haha-You nominated Kabuki Queen Interesting Blog Award!

It's our very first award so I thought I'd grace everyone with an acceptance speech:

First of I'd like to thank God...without Him this blog would be...nothing. To our loyal 33 followers...you all are the best I've ever had! Thanks for loving every random post, rant etc...I gotta get out what's going on in my brain somehow lol. Okay I'll get off the soapbox after this last one thing........I LOVE YOU MJ!

Okay I'm done.

Oh! And I'm also supposed to nominate another blog and I chose.......

Almost Famous...Ya'll always have great posts that keep me entertained.

Healthy Kisses...Nikki you always have health info we all need to know.

Naturally Yan Tan...Because I'm definitely finding your hair journey interesting as I'm transitioning also.

And don't forget the rules:

1. Accept the award, post it on your blog together with the name of the person who has granted the award and his/her blog link.

2. Pass the award to other blogs that you've newly discovered. Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.

Thanks again Jasmine!

I Just Can't...

2009-06-25T15:54:00.003-07:00

I don't even know what to say other than that is man was awesome despite any of his personal battles. May God rest his soul and let his music continue to play forever and influence the lives of everyone he touched.

pass the courvoisier

2009-06-24T12:56:00.002-07:00

hated the song, but would love to taste the drank one of these good days. i know the iphone has a drink menu application that lists all the drinks and how to make them. now, i'm not an alcoholic or anything, far from it...but i do like a good cocktail every now and again. any suggestions for the next time i'm in the mood to sip? pinkies up!

Rainy Dayz

2009-06-24T12:50:00.003-07:00

"its just those rainy dayz, you spend a lifetime trying to wash away, until the sun comes out and shines again, smile at me, smile for me..."

where are my spring babies at?! i absolutely love the rain (when i haven't just gotten my $60 'do done, of course). to be able to nap in a house that is 84 degrees without discomfort deserves a def shout-out. the rain gave me a well-needed boost, even though the nap was only 15 minutes!

how about you? any afternoon nappers out there??

She's back!

2009-06-24T10:54:00.003-07:00

i know i've been ghost, but thx so much for all of you supporting the efforts of my divalicious partner in the game...fab e! you all have truly been a blessing.

just to share a little of what's held my attention for the past eon: been seeing this new older guy that i've been crushing on. does anyone feel me when i say he was all types of wrong for me, but i pursued it anyway...leaving myself emotionally drained and psychologically stressed. i was dealing with some insecurities about being younger and less experienced, but as time will have it we are working through our issues and taking it one day at a time. i tried not to bash the whole male population on this post, which is why it took me so long to get on here (shout out to our male followers).

i'll leave you with a few words of wisdom, though: not all men are dogs; cherish the ones that treat you as the queen you are and leave the doggish-ness by the garage for trash day. love to all ;)

Sweet Jesus!

2009-06-23T18:08:00.003-07:00

Oh em gee!

30 followers now??

I just had to post and say MUCHAS GRACIAS! I'm so like....ah! It's wonderful! And God is so good to have this blog really take off. Ya'll don't know this blog is my baby and it means so much to me and ya'll mean everything to me! I feel tears coming....

No I'm just playing but I'm so grateful so special thanks again to those who have been following and our new followers...welcome KabQ's!

Who Is.....?

2009-06-23T11:22:00.016-07:00

Now the following post is totally no homo.

With that being said I freakin’ love Jill Scott.

I got a girl crush…so what, the chick is fierce!

Her music is just…bananas. So poetic, so emotional, so real.

So as I’m still contemplating my Man of the Moment for the week, I’ll leave you with my Kabuki Queen of the Moment, and my female boo!

And have you seen The No.1 Ladies Detective Agency on HBO?

If you haven’t your clearly sleeping.

Oh yes and I do want her hair….

If my soon-to-be natural can look that good…I’m good!

She’s just so refreshing. Loves it!

Surprise Surprise

2009-06-23T06:06:00.003-07:00

So I logged onto Blogger this morning to see that we have 6 new followers! I'm geeked!

So hello, hey there, hi there to our 6 new followers, you are so appreciated. And a special special thanks to K. Michel Press who gave all of his followers a chance to put their blogs on blast so everyone can connect, make sure you check the post out and check out his blog K.Michel Press.

More posts coming through the day...

Some Like It Hot

2009-06-22T08:28:00.028-07:00

....I on the other hand like the temperature to be moderate…give me 75-79 degrees. But since the first day of summer was yesterday I’ll have to find that moderate weather next Spring. Oh how I’ll miss you.

But I can’t hate too much on summer, summer gives me days full of sundresses, outside dining, warm late nights, and plethora men coming out the woodwork (well there aren’t too many choices in St. Louis but once in awhile there’s a few decent ones). It’s all fun in the sun.

And with the summer heat I ALWAYS need to cheap finds to keep me cool. Thanks where my friend Forever 21 comes in. Some people bad mouth Forever but I can’t…we’re in a recession and I still gotta look fierce…don’t hate!

Tiered Fiesta Dress$24.80

Nadina Sundress $19.80

H81 Bold Stripes Sundress $22.90

Lathika Chiffon Tube Dress $22.80

Dayana Print Dress w/ Belt $22.80

WAKE UP!

2009-06-22T07:47:00.003-07:00

I think it’s well known around these parts that I absolutely cannot stand Monday’s. I hope Monday’s die a slow death because that’s what they do to me! Every Monday morning I wake up to a beautiful sun shining in my room yes I thank God for life and the light he gives in my room but then can I enjoy it in peace? No, because I got this mechanical device that makes an annoying noise that makes me get up to turn it off. I don’t like it…not one bit.

So as I got up out of bed I told myself to wake up, not just to be alert to the new day that was ahead of me but to really WAKE UP!

Wake up to the fact that I was put on this earth for a reason.

Wake up to know that there are people truly in my corner that want to see me prosper.

Wake up to know that I am fearfully and wonderfully made by a God that I serve that blesses me every minute of everyday.

Wake up to the fact that I am beautiful, that I am fabulous and I don’t have to hold back for anyone.

Wake up to know that fear is not real and will not get in the way of my future goals.

Wake up to realize that anything is possible through God.

Wake up to know that some people are in my life just for a season and that it’s okay to let them go.

Wake up to know that I deserve the best.

Wake up to realize that I cannot and will not settle for less.

Yes this all came to me this morning. For awhile I have put people and their feelings before mine. So much that mine got lost in the process, but I’m taking it back…all of it. It’s time to focus just on me and what makes me happy and for most of all not to fear anything or anyone but God.

And with that…my Monday isn’t so bad after all.

One Blooming Rose

2009-06-18T13:22:00.006-07:00

Now I’ve had my opinions about Ms. Amber Rose *cough:sleeping with celebs to get ahead:cough*. But while over at Young, Black & Fabulous I happened to stumble upon a lookbook Amber did for EModa. And in all honesty…this girl is gorgeous.

Get it how you live girl…Kanye and all.

We Get The Job Done Around Here

2009-06-18T12:21:00.005-07:00

One of the interns at my job decided he needed a break on our office floor.

Hard work at its best.

Celebrity Twitter=Celebrity Soapbox

2009-06-18T12:19:00.004-07:00

Okay pretty much by now everyone has a Twitter for the exception of a few of my friends who will never succumb to the fad. What’s making Twitter that much more interesting to us common folk is that we can follow the lives of our favorite celebrities to keep track of their day to day activities. Now with Twitter I’m all for celebrities or anyone promoting for albums etc.…hey you gotta get the info out somehow right? But what I don’t understand is why celebs are constantly using Twitter to start beef or give their ‘woe is me’ tale to stir up a few rumors. For instance, we all remember Tila Tequila, after the show (I couldn’t stand the show at all) I could have cared less about what she was up to. But she started this mess about her being preggers and Ray-J being the father…I was like for real? Who cares!! And don’t get me started on the mess Yung Joc was talking about with the whole Kat Williams and DMX drug soirée. But then I take a step back to look at the big picture. These people gotta keep their names out somehow…but do they have to be so annoying?

Every time I seem to check Twitter celebs are giving nothing but nonsense that makes me want to unfollow some of them. Hell, I’m not even on Twitter that much as is…but still feel free to follow me when I do remember to actually update (twitter.com/fab_E). I promise my updates won’t be lame. However I will give kudos to the celebs who always have positive updates and things that make you go hmmm…like Dawn from Danity Kane and Lauren London.

So for those of you who do have Twitters do you ever respond to your fav celebs? Honestly I haven’t I figure they really aren’t looking anyway but hey maybe if the fineness that is Trey Songz really gets my attention I may have to drop him a line.

SMH....

2009-06-17T20:43:00.001-07:00

That's all I can say about this video clip. BET...I thought we we're trying to rise up as a people...you clearly keep bringing us down with coonery (yes I said coonery) like this. This gets all the side-eye action.

For Hip Hop News & Entertainment at DimeWars.Com

Wednesday's Lesson For The Day

2009-06-17T12:00:00.010-07:00

Don't take a nap during your lunch break when it's 90 degrees outside.

Why?

Because you won't get up and you'll end up pissed for two reasons. One, because you slept past your lunch break which results in coming back late to the office and two, because you actually had to get up.

Goshdarnit.

I've had the most lethargic, slow day ever. When it was 10:30am I swore that it was already 12noon. Jokes on me. But on the real I would have more posts for today but the signals from my brain to my hands in order for me to type seem to be off.

You should see the effort I'm putting in to type this now. But on the real I won't leave you guys hanging tomorrow. If you guys can take a afternoon nap...catch a couple zzz's for your girl.

You Cuz or Blood?

2009-06-17T09:01:00.002-07:00

I'm definitely neither but this apple I was just about to eat is a Crip...a Cripps Pink to be exact. Must be a new clique.

Rep yo' set!

Tuesday Rants

2009-06-16T13:16:00.012-07:00

It's only Tuesday!!

Ugh. I'm so ready for this week to be over. My weave is extra tight to the point where it pulls when I bend my head down...I just want relief! I still love my hair though. Overall life is good. I'm single again and it's sort of weird not having that person to talk to every night but I'm handling it pretty well...more me time...that's always a plus AND time to work on Kabuki Queen and you know thats good!

I don't have any real post for today, my boss came back to work and I'm playing catch up with her and had a job interview today (fingers crossed), so I've just been replying to responses and checking out everyone else's blogs.

Oh and we have 19 followers now! Ya'll really don't know how grateful I am! You all leave great comments too so keep them coming! Shout out to Nikki (Ms. Healthy Kisses) and K*Mack (Soliloquies of a Thespian) for the blog design referrals...I didn't know what I was going to do.And better believe I'm reading your blogs too...that's all I do at work! LOL.

That's all the rant I have for today...I'll try to post more tonight!

Can We Focus....

2009-06-15T18:58:00.001-07:00

On the sexiness that is Trey Songz in this picture??

I just had to share :)

We Need You!

2009-06-15T11:28:00.003-07:00

Kabuki Queen needs you bad!

So I'm not the most tech savvy person especially when it comes to graphic designs. I'm really wanting to step up KabQ's look and I need a graphic designer or a reference to a site that makes blog layouts and banners.

So if anyone can help us out it'll will be more than appreciated!

I'm A Dirty Brownie

2009-06-15T11:08:00.011-07:00

At least that's what my co-worker called my hair color...anyways here's pics of the new hair!

Ya like? I'll make sure to get a better picture of the color with the digital. And I just noticed that I didn't smile in any of these lol...I guess I was going more of a sexy scowl...rrarh! LOL.

I can assume change is in the air...new hair...newly single...and working on new body...wonder what's next? The things that make you go hmmm....

Rainy Days Go Away!

2009-06-15T07:28:00.004-07:00

So so sorry for the lack of updates the past few days. I’ve been holding down the HR office while my supervisor has been out sick. Plus I’ve been spending most of my internet time on Black Hair Media. Have you checked it out? It’s awesome! I keep learning more and more about taking better care of my hair annnddd I got a new hairstyle! I weaved it back up again just simple sleek and straight but a lighter color, finally! You don’t know how bad I’ve wanted to have some type of color in my hair.

But once again I got a bad case of the Monday’s and it doesn’t help at all that the forecast in STL is nothing but rain…dark, gloomy rain.

What I wouldn’t give to be back in my bed. *Pondering taking a half sick day…..*

And lastly I must say that I enjoy reading each and every comment ya’ll leave it makes doing this so worth it….ya’ll are the f*@&in’ best!

Lucky Number 17

2009-06-10T17:02:00.004-07:00

One thing about me is that 17 is my favorite number...probably because I was born on the 17th but I'm so excited because we have 17 followers now! Once again thank you thank you for continuing to read and support Kabuki Queen...we do it for ya'll!

100

2009-06-10T10:48:00.013-07:00

Man these 100 cal snacks are on! Who knows what I'm talking about?

I just came back in town from the South and definitely got it crackin on the food tip (e.g., greens, macaroni, cornbread, biscuits and gravy, chicken, fried green tomatoes, green beans, ribs, okra, cabbage, spaghetti, etc. you get the picture). So, upon my return I was definitely trying to figure out how to lose all this weight I just picked up (over the course of a week). I went to Target yesterday and though it was not Super Target, they still had food and liquor selections that I went to check out. The liquor part is for another day, but the food selections caught my eye. They have a whole section of 100 cal snacks and half of them were on sale. While I'm trying to lose weight I am also trying to be a better steward of my funds, so as you can imagine, I hit the jackpot! I racked up on 3 things: peanut butter and chocolate granola bars for breakfast (110 cals), Cheez-its for a class snack, and Nutty bars for that after meal sweetness.

Not only are they good, but they provide awareness as to how much the American public actually eats. Usually we're into getting the most for our money so we super-size everything, which tempts us to finish it all so as not to be wasteful. When you buy smaller portions you condition your body to eat less, and eating less equals healthier people. Now, I do drink 2-3 Capri Suns daily, but I drink about double the water and take the stairs (in stilettos) instead of the elevator to get my daily workout on my days off of dance class. Most think that it costs more to eat better, but if you become a bargain shopper, you'll learn to only buy foods (healthy) that are on sale.

No more excuses, we must do better.

A Love Jones...Of Some Sort

2009-06-10T09:51:00.007-07:00

Lately I haven't been writing poetry like I used to, but with different things going on the only way I knew to express it was through words. So I hope you enjoy my random fab thoughts.....

untitled

i never claim to know it all
to yell that your about to fall
to tell you to veer to the right rather than steer to the left
to let you know whats best
for you
but me
i know me
maybe not what’s in my destiny or in the stars
to know when its my venus, pluto or mars
cause I never got with that astrology crap
and perhaps I never will
because no book, card or palm could ever trace
what a smile you could bring to my face
to hurry my pace
so my eyes can meet with a gaze
that burns in my mind for days
with thoughts of you and the things you do to me
that have me thinking this has become my reality
not quite the vision that I dreamed
the knight and shining armor coming to get his queen
no
it was more like the boy who decided they were too old for toys
and picked up the shiny piece of gold
that he got to hold
never to let go
a treasure to him and all the world to see
to tell the world that he would rather have me
and I’d rather have him
agree, disagree, opinions don’t matter
advice can do so much
but I can tell me and only me
what brings the joy from my head to my feet
because this is only the wisdom of a woman who knows
who she would rather hold

© afabthought

No Sleep=Writer's Block

2009-06-10T07:43:00.004-07:00

I'm seriously struggling this morning. With only a few hours of sleep I'm barely functioning at my desk with me continuing to nod-off. And with that I just can't seem to muster up a post except the one I'm writing now.

:Sigh:

Okay...I won't leave ya'll hanging today. So I will be back momentarily while I go hit up this coffee machine. It better work it's wonders.

Flashing Lights....

2009-06-09T17:59:00.003-07:00

I'll be brief: this morning I had dance class, thus, I threw on some nothings (e.g., brown gauchos and a lavender beater with brown and orange flops) and went on about my business with all intentions of wearing this to work with a cover up and some open-toes. However, my boss saw me today during my dance break, therefore leaving me one of two options: a.) go home and change clothes after class (even though I only have 3 fits left to wear for the rest of the week) b.) wear what I have on and jazz it up. Needless to say, I went for the second choice (being the creative fashionista that I truly am). In the line of fashion you always have to be ready to make lounge wear into fab wear. Trust me, I turned it out. I didn't think I could pull it off but I went out on a limb and added a cream linen trench with brown buttons, exchanged the cream belt that came with the jacket for a brown leather belt, did not button any of the buttons, but simply tied the jacket with the belt and went on about my biz. I threw on a mustard beanie and some brown and cream houndstooth open-toes and got it crackin. Since I didn't have my pearls in, I nixed the beanie and let my micros down over my ears for a classic Garnier experience. I guess it worked because my boss asked me if I re-did my micros; and a young Target worker told me I was ON. I said all that to say, when it comes to fashion, playing it safe is for suckas! Get out there and wear the unexpected (before the designers come up with it)!

Get It Together!

2009-06-09T13:28:00.005-07:00

There are many times where I can really get beside myself and continue to complain and fuss about the things that aren’t going in my life and the things that I don’t have. I’ll even get caught up in my emotions of feeling sad, lonely etc. I’ll even pull the victim card once in awhile. But then I think….

Where does this get me?

Absolutely no where.

My mom always tells me when I start to have a bad attitude that I have a choice about how to feel. Either I can let it go and let God, or continue to hold on to my problems by myself because no one likes misery’s company. I know it’s sometimes hard to get through your emotions but sometimes you got to tell them to stop and start using your brain instead of your emotions to guide your decisions. And playing the victim role, I’m gonna be honest…I struggle with that. Every time I have a problem it’s not “woe is me”. I have to tell myself to literally “man-up” because some things are not worth the time and energy. You know the saying “a smile gets you further than a frown”? I’ve realized that it’s so true.

So don’t sweat the small stuff. If you have some issues going on, talk to the people you love…that’s why they are there. And if your feeling stressed and need some time alone check out Nikki’s Healthy Kisses for some Powerful Relaxation Techniques.

And most of all remember...

woo-sah! :)

To Put A Smile In Your Tuesday

2009-06-09T07:25:00.005-07:00

I got this picture in an email last week and wanted to share the cuteness!

Recent photo of a little boy visiting the White House. He wanted to feel Obama's hair because he wanted to know if the President's hair felt just like his. Obama obliged. Priceless.

A Serious Case of the Mondays

2009-06-08T12:33:00.005-07:00

I can’t stand Mondays, especially after traveling for the weekend.

I will say that I had an awesome weekend in Chicago celebrating my friend’s 25th birthday. I did a little shopping A LOT of eating and a lot of drinking…can’t even front. Only thing that I came back to were trees falling from another bad storm that passed through…so bad that I saw a tree on top of a car...eek! No damage done to my house or car (thank God!)

But now that its time for a new week new posts! Of course they’ll be random as ever.

Lastly I want to say a huuuuuuuuugeeeeeeeeeeeeeee thanks and a heartfelt of gratitude because I had a surprise when I opened my blogger this morning…we have 14 followers!

I was so geeked I couldn’t stop smiling. To each 14 of you all and others that read the blog, you all keep me going, seriously. I was so close to shutting down this blog back in April. So you all get a round of applause, computer hugs and lots and lots more posts to come!

Diet? Huh?

2009-06-05T07:33:00.001-07:00

Okay I’m gonna be real my 4-Day Diet was more like 3. Yesterday I seriously fell off. Not only did I sleep in therefore I couldn’t work out in the morning but I didn’t work out in the afternoon because I was doing so many things after I got off work. But this is what my menu consisted of which was supposed to be mainly fruits and veggies.

Breakfast: Yogurt w/ blueberries, strawberries, almonds and granola

Snack: Drinking water

Lunch: Kale & 4 small slices of IMO’s pizza (the start of the downfall)

Snack: Celery sticks, one banana, one medium apple

Dinner: 4 chicken wings, 2 meatballs, tortilla chips/Doritos, rotel, pineapple, 2 glasses of wine

Late Night: Another 2 glasses of wine

Yeah dinner wasn’t really dinner it was the food served at a Pure Romance party I went to (which was off the chain! More about that later!). Then my friends and I decided to go out and we got the wine bottle poppin’.

I was planning to get up at 5 to run but see it as I went to be at 3:00am I knew that wouldn’t be such a good idea. Plus I can’t work out this afternoon or this weekend since I’ll be in Chi-Town. So pretty much from this whole experience I lost a pound…not bad in my book.

I’ll do better next week :)

4 Day Diet-Day 3

2009-06-03T19:57:00.005-07:00

So Day 3 is pretty much done and I did good for the most part the menu was the same from the first day but this is what I ate:

Breakfast-Yogurt with strawberries

Snack-I really didn't have one but I did drink berry flavored fiber with lemonade which was YUM!

Lunch-Spinach & Kale

Snack-Salad with veggies and blueberries & fat-free ranch dressing & banana

Dinner-Salad...i was supposed to have this shrimp stir-fry that my granny made but it turned out to be nasty so salad it was. Overall I'm feeling pretty good, slightly worn out from the workout which is why I'm going to sleep now.

I also drank LOTS of water which is why I think I'm so full. I worked out with my trainer for an hour which was a very intense hour! But he did weigh me and now I'm at 163.6 so a total of 0.8 pounds...hey it's better than nothing.

Until tomorrow!

Why Are You So Paranoid?

2009-06-03T19:37:00.002-07:00

So I just checked out Kanye's new video "Paranoid" featuring Rihanna and I can't lie, I'm feeling it. I'm kinda missing Rih Rih on the music video scene, maybe it's just me wanting to see her somewhere other than paparazzi photos. Anyways, check it!